Saturday, July 31, 2010

Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?

We were both born and raised in America. We're both greeks in college, which is where we met. I'm a art History Major, he's in Business Admin. Both products of private school. Both a little strong, characterwise. He has met my parents, somewhat affluent from the baby boomer generation: uptight and conservative from the east coast, but were surprisingly receptive to my sweetheart of a boyfriend. They weren't open to him at first, but now, they like him more than my ex, and pretty much residual suitors buzzing around, (all of whom tower over my 5'6'; boyfriend, by a good half foot or so.lol)


All my sorority sisters think that he's a great catch. And even if the top of his head is eyelevel to me, he has a tall character. He makes me so happy, and safe, and feel so special, and there's really nothing that I want more than to do the same for him.


So with all that said, His parents are flying in from Seattle in 3 days, and I want to make a good impression. We've been together for almost 2 years now, and my parents see him weekly... but I've never met his parents. I don't want to do or say something demeaning or ignorant, or disrespectful. From what I've heard here and there, English is not their first language, but his father is an Ivy league grad. His mom is a homemaker who took care of her son and daughter. I don't know how traditional they are, but I do know that his dad really wants him to marry a Vietnamese girl. I don't think we're thinking about the marriage route just yet (though I wouldn't mind one bit, except we still have to graduate) but I at least want to know what to do and what not to do when I finally meet the parents of the man I love. My roommate's Chinese, and she says that in her culture, they don't hug, but they bow instead. I wasn't raised like that at all. I was raised with hugs as a salutation.


I know I might sound a little ignorant, or stupid, but do I refrain from hugging? Should I at least learn how to say ';please'; and ';thank you';? I'm really stressing over this. Help please?Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?
You should ask him some questions about his parents before they arrive. If they do not speak english that well I think it would give a nice first impression if you knew how to say simple things like hi, how are you, please, thank you etc. As for hugging them, I wouldn't hug them unless they go in to hug you. Not everyone is comfortable with that type of salutation. Again just ask your boyfriend some questions about his parents before they come like whether they are traditional, would they mind if you hugged them hello, etc. Good luck!

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