Saturday, July 31, 2010

Makeup advice for a darker girl?

I'm Indian and I need some makeup advice. See, all the makeup I get is either too dark or too light, it's impossible for me to find my perfect shade. I know there's a true match make up but it's only for medium skin tone and I need something a little darker.





What should I get?? I need something that will cover up acne spots and discoloration.





And if you're an expert........


I'm good with eye makeup but horrible with skin. My skin is oily and my makeup doesn't stay perfect for more than 2 hours, anything I can do about that? Also, how do foundation and concealer play into your makeup routine? What are they for? Also, I hear most people like liquid makeup better than pressed powder? What's better?





Sorry lol, no one really explained any of this to me.Makeup advice for a darker girl?
What you need to do is go to a beauty supply shop! Either Ulta, Sephora or anything like that. They have tons of experienced employees when it comes to makeup, go and ask one to help you find a foundation that will match your skin, (You can tell them your price range too). It literally takes 5 minutes and you'll be good on color!





Concealer goes under the eyes and on pimples. It a very strong foundation basically, and covers everything up. That goes on first.





Foundation is next, you want to blend it well and cover your entire face and a bit of your neck. Don't put too much on though.





Then to make the foundation and concealer stay all day, you put powder on... this sets it to stay and will help it stay for probably 6 or 7 hours. Ask the Ulta or Sephora person for a good powder too.





Hope I helped!

Need advice on convincing a girl...?

Alright well I met this girl at the beginning of February. She happens to be a good friend of my good friend's girlfriend. A little background on her from what i've heard and discovered on my own is that she hasnt had the best relationships in the past. Her last boyfriend cheated on her numerous times, which she actually just found out about. They just broke up a week or so before i met her. Well anyways we talked for a few weeks from texting to eventually having a couple hours of phone conversation a night. She lives an hour and a half away(back where i live but i moved down to college) and first chance i got i headed up there. We hung out at another party and everything went extremely well. The next night we went out on a date and once again everything else went extremely well. I am really liking this girl but after the date she gives me some crap that she had a really good time and she thinks i'm really nice but she just lost interest. I've heard from friends that she does this often and i believe that she is afraid of getting involved with anybody because of her past with guys. I will be going back up to her area in a week or so and will most definitely run into her while i am there cause we have a few different mutual friends and hang out spots. How do i convince her to not be afraid and to give it a chance because i truly am a good person and would never mistreat a girl?Need advice on convincing a girl...?
Unfortunately, the guy she gets with after having that issue ISNT the one to convince her.


Most of the time it's from her having an epiphany or getting over it herself. Maybe her friend(s) can convince her since they truly have her trust.





If you wouldn't mistreat a girl then you know that you have to respect them. Part of respecting HER is respecting get decision. That's the best way to go.





Don't keep talking to her though!!!!


You seriously DO NOT want to be dragged into the ';friend'; catagory.


If she says she's not interested, give her some time and space.





Within time, go back and reclaim what's rightfully yours! =)





Just don't try to force it....


Those are always the worst kind of relationships.





Well good luck.


Hope I helped!!!

Any advice for a sick girl...whose b-day is 2morrow?

Hey my b-day is tomorrow ad i am sick. My head hurts my muscles ache when I touch something cool it feels weird, I have a fever and a cough. The thing it my birthday is tomorrow and my friends are coming over to sleepover. I went to watch so you think you can dance with my friend (who is invited to the party) the 21st and she wasn't feeling well she had a sore throat. But I think she's fine cause she was still acting like herself. Any way I can try and get better before tomorrow. I want my friends to come hang out but I also don't want to send 4 teenage girls home sick.Any advice for a sick girl...whose b-day is 2morrow?
advise: take advantage of everyone you see





EVERYONE

I need threesome advice!!!! Two guys one girl. im the girl!!! help?

ok so my man came clean and told me he has a fetish.he wants to watch me get Fu**ed by another man. im ok with the idea, as long as he doesn't get jealous. But ive never done that before. what i want to know is what im supposed to do and say while this is all happening, do i enjoy it?? what positions can i do to involve both of them?? will he think less of me?? im just REALLY new to the whole thing. Anyone done this before?? 2males 1 female?? ive done the 3somes with 2 girls before but we stopped doing that because it made me jealous. But 2guys and me would be really different. what if it gets awkward?? He says he wants to watch me enjoy myself with another man.....ok, but how??? i need some 3some sex advice. HOW DO I MAKE THIS THE MOST ENJOYABLE FOR MY MAN.....guys give me the tips!!! I need to know some tips and tricks that i can do with 2 guys.I need threesome advice!!!! Two guys one girl. im the girl!!! help?
Hey girl... thanks for your advice for my question... Im answering this question in relation to a previous question of yours...





I read your previous question about how he kept getting mad at you and you related to the job search... then he asks for a three some with you and wants you to enjoy yourself with another man?? Is there a lot of change in way of his behavior?? Extra nice to you??





There might be another underlying reason to his fits and men they do not like to make less than women or not be able to work at all... so they get fed up and not attracted to you because of the situation ...some look at other means of satisfaction....he may have cheated on you...and I think he is being extra nice and telling you that he wants you to enjoy another man is a way to make him feel less guilt... Most men like three some with two girls...men freak out and say hell no if its if the couple invites a man for threesome..





Ask yourself even if you like threesomes...does he treat you the way you want to be treated?..Is there sudden changes in his behavior ?...Notice if he is being extra cautious about his emails, browser, or cell phone...or making excuses that just doesn't add up...





It may/may not be the case...but it is always good to be alert....








IF you choose to do three some...dont kiss the guy thats invited in on the lip at all.. enjoy the guy that gets invited in.. but make it as if this is all done for you bf ..dont enjoy the invited guy in more than your bf.. MEN HAVE HUGE EGO! ....watch porn...you have plenty of places they can poke around in lol...





I'm not into 3some stuff...soo thats all I can tell ya...





Anyways.. if you are not big fan of 3some ...and dont think you are being treated fairly... you would be beter of with another man...that does not supress you from sucess and grows with you....





laterz..I need threesome advice!!!! Two guys one girl. im the girl!!! help?
Hiya!!!





If he is into it, then he will not get jealous, he simply wants that self assurance that his girl is as good looking as he already knows and the ultimate feeling of this is when you see your girlfriend getting this done.





Just my opinion but I am pretty sure I am correct!!!





Dawn
I think the most obvious would be doggy with the new man behind you and you giving your man a BJ. If you are both up to it you could try Double Penetration. One in each hole
He will get jealous...don't do it...find a man who respects, cherishes %26amp; loves you for the wonderful person you are.
just watch porn or something
your best way of dealing with this is to list some boundary's and say you feel a bit awkward doing this and say what you feel and that he shouldn't be getting jealous cause he is the one who suggested it and may some positions is you on your back the other bloke ******* you as your suck your hubby off on your back you could have the same thing the other way round you could have you sit on the guys **** and then have your hubby enter you from behind if you are able to do that you could also look up so sexual positions for 3somes on the net if you want ideas on what you can do
If your doing it with 2 men, then they'll treat you however they want.


You don't need to worry about satisfying them because they'll satisfy themselves.





If your guy asked you to do it, then he probably won't get jealous, but ask yourself what else or who else is he doing?





I've never been in one but several friends have and they all said the same thing: Open relationships don't work.





If you don't really know your boyfriend and the other guy, then maybe enjoy it.


But remember its gonna be hard to find another man if they find out about it.


No man except a loser is going to settle for a woman like that.



Not a guy but I have done this.


Start by giving them both oral.


then have 1 go down on u while you contince servicing the other w/ your mouth.


Great positions are U on all 4's 1 guy behind U %26amp; 1 in your mouth.


Then you can also ride one with 1 in your mouth.


try anal too!!!


then try 1 in the bum %26amp; 1 in the sweet hole.


Make sure that U have them *** in ur mouth like this..u on ur knees both of them standing up.


Each one aims his wee-wee at ur mouth and you open wide letting them squirt it all in your mouth and on ur face, make sure u swollow.





After ward, look to try doing 5 guys at once.

Is it possible or wise to try to kiss a girl if you are wearing glasses. Any technical advice on this?

i have kissed a girl before but not since i got glasses. can i just kiss her with my glasses on or do i have to take them off? has anyone out there in Yahoo-land done this before?Is it possible or wise to try to kiss a girl if you are wearing glasses. Any technical advice on this?
You can kiss on side way, so your glasses will not get blocked.





JoyceIs it possible or wise to try to kiss a girl if you are wearing glasses. Any technical advice on this?
Yes, it is possible. Would I do it? No. It is uncomfortable and they always end up getting in the way if things get heated up to any degree..lol Just take them off and you will be just fine.
if a girl likes you and you wear glasses than she would probably expect you to wear them while you kiss. now if you are getting real down and dirty kiss, you may want to take them off so they won't fall off.
Do it any way you want......just don't be so uptight about it. It'll be fine. Take them off if you think they'll get in the way. HEY, you figured out where the noses go, you'll figure this one out as well. Good luck!!!
you better leave them on so you don't kiss her her nose.
If she has glasses too it might be a little difficult at first but you will get use to it. If she doesn't don't worry about it and just be natural.

Relationship advice for a clingy girl?

In the past i've had a habit of depending upon one person. For example, preschool through late elementary school, i had a single close BESTfriend. After that long you depend on someone, as she did me, but i drifted a part from her (we're still friends).


In 8th grade i found my very bestfriend (still my bestfriend). That summer before we started high school we did EVERYTHING together and i depended on her for everything, including my happiness. We realized she's just not into having a single close friend but lots and lots of friends. I was very clingy. She met her first boyfriend and that winter break i spent every single day alone. It was the worst time in my life. I'd never felt so...low. We worked through this and now my relationships with my many friends are wonderful!


Last year, on the forth of July, I met my boyfriend, my first real serious boyfriend. We were inseparable for months and months. He made (and still makes) me happier than i had ever been in my entire life. The closeness and intimacy I had unknowingly been searching for with my bestfriend had been met with this wonderful boy. I've experienced absolutely everything new with him. We've been through awful ups and downs but it always comes back to, ';i love you so so much';. We took a lot of things very fast, including talking about our future together. He's the best blessing i've never gotten. He's changed my life so much that I can’t be without him anymore. I don't know how to be. I depend on “us” being an ';us'; so much. He's my happiness, my everything. I want him right beside me for the rest of my life, regardless of anything we have to face or go through. He's really been through a lot, especially death and hasn't taken it very well. i just wish I could take everything and make it perfect for him.


i sound pathetic right? Awfully clingy? We'll have been dating 1 year next month and recently it just hasn't been the same. We don't spend as much time together, since it's summer. I've been miserable. He's not used to having a girlfriend alllll summer and is usually with his buddies. I know he loves me very very much but he needs to be with his friends sometimes too.





So did you spot the pattern? Depending on a single person until they need space. :(


Any advice for a loving, clingy girlfriend? How can I just make myself happy with the time we DO spend together and look forward to the next time? This goes for my friends too, not just my boyfriend.


Thank you.Relationship advice for a clingy girl?
I know it's hard. I am the same way. And once you do find that someone that you cling to, you unintentionally push everyone else away over time.





I would just suggest reconnecting with some of your old friends, and seeing if you can hang out with them a couple days a week. Don't push yourself too much on your boyfriend, or he will get annoyed, and things will go downhill.





I know how hard it is. I honestly do. But just try to take it easy, find things to fill the time you're alone like walking at the park, or reading a good book, anything mind numbing. And also, like I said, try to make some plans with old friends while he is hanging out with his guy friends.





Hang in there, and good luck!Relationship advice for a clingy girl?
i only read the headline. sorry but i dont feel like reading right now





but if a girl is clingy that means she is not ready for a relationship or that she doesnt trust the guy








think about that
Stop overanalizing everything. Stop being clingy. Men hate that about a woman. He probably is going to get tired of all of your NEEDS.
Just always ask yourself that question, and if you think you are, stop what you are doing. If you're not sure, ask.
WOW. Find a hobby, or he will probably find a new girlfriend.
let me give u advice...when u post a question...dont write to many words because no one will read it coz no one has all that time...peace
well my advice is look at pictures and reminisce. but in not so sure. do something you like, like shopping or movies. hang out with your other friends or someother people. you dont have to be alone all the time, find people and do fun things. hang out with your siblings even. make a parody of a movie or something all day, if you're trying to get through a day lol idk.





please help me?http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
Somehow it seems like ur boyfriend has become your bestfriend which is good. Apart from that you really do need to talk it out with him. He does need to have some freedom and it goes for you to. Try to figure out how to spend time without him because even though you may be in love with this guy he can't always be there for you. You have to know how to be on your on and not rely so much on other people.
Ok you are conditioned to cling. BUT look at me, I'm very much clingy too :) I've had bad relationships/ friendships in the past. But now I know I was destined to find someone just as clingy too :P My boyfriend of three years and I have'd been through so much up and down but we are perfect for each other.





You know its your choice... do you want to stay the same or CHANGE?





If you want to change, search for ';emotional detachment'; and get yourself a psychoanalyst or counsellor to help you learn to let go. Basically you'll have to break the habit of getting emotionally attached and not letting go people.
This sounds like you have a co-dependency issue. Its possible that you might need therapy talk to someone about this. I'm not trying to say that there is anything wrong with you, but sometimes, we link our level of self esteem to the people who are close to us and depending on the condition of that relationship we are happy or sad. You need to learn to be independent.
its easy to feel that way especially with a boyfriend. im that way with mine too and its sooo annoying for me! he does have to be with his friends but just talk to him about you feel and if the relationship is worth it then he will be willing to cooperate cuz its new to him too so he shouldnt be complaining. just kind let him come to you even if its hard.





help me?


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  • Makeup advice for a darker girl?

    I'm Indian and I need some makeup advice. See, all the makeup I get is either too dark or too light, it's impossible for me to find my perfect shade. I know there's a true match make up but it's only for medium skin tone and I need something a little darker.





    What should I get?? I need something that will cover up acne spots and discoloration.





    And if you're an expert........


    I'm good with eye makeup but horrible with skin. My skin is oily and my makeup doesn't stay perfect for more than 2 hours, anything I can do about that? Also, how do foundation and concealer play into your makeup routine? What are they for? Also, I hear most people like liquid makeup better than pressed powder? What's better?





    Sorry lol, no one really explained any of this to me.Makeup advice for a darker girl?
    What you need to do is go to a beauty supply shop! Either Ulta, Sephora or anything like that. They have tons of experienced employees when it comes to makeup, go and ask one to help you find a foundation that will match your skin, (You can tell them your price range too). It literally takes 5 minutes and you'll be good on color!





    Concealer goes under the eyes and on pimples. It a very strong foundation basically, and covers everything up. That goes on first.





    Foundation is next, you want to blend it well and cover your entire face and a bit of your neck. Don't put too much on though.





    Then to make the foundation and concealer stay all day, you put powder on... this sets it to stay and will help it stay for probably 6 or 7 hours. Ask the Ulta or Sephora person for a good powder too.





    Hope I helped!

    Need advice on convincing a girl...?

    Alright well I met this girl at the beginning of February. She happens to be a good friend of my good friend's girlfriend. A little background on her from what i've heard and discovered on my own is that she hasnt had the best relationships in the past. Her last boyfriend cheated on her numerous times, which she actually just found out about. They just broke up a week or so before i met her. Well anyways we talked for a few weeks from texting to eventually having a couple hours of phone conversation a night. She lives an hour and a half away(back where i live but i moved down to college) and first chance i got i headed up there. We hung out at another party and everything went extremely well. The next night we went out on a date and once again everything else went extremely well. I am really liking this girl but after the date she gives me some crap that she had a really good time and she thinks i'm really nice but she just lost interest. I've heard from friends that she does this often and i believe that she is afraid of getting involved with anybody because of her past with guys. I will be going back up to her area in a week or so and will most definitely run into her while i am there cause we have a few different mutual friends and hang out spots. How do i convince her to not be afraid and to give it a chance because i truly am a good person and would never mistreat a girl?Need advice on convincing a girl...?
    Unfortunately, the guy she gets with after having that issue ISNT the one to convince her.


    Most of the time it's from her having an epiphany or getting over it herself. Maybe her friend(s) can convince her since they truly have her trust.





    If you wouldn't mistreat a girl then you know that you have to respect them. Part of respecting HER is respecting get decision. That's the best way to go.





    Don't keep talking to her though!!!!


    You seriously DO NOT want to be dragged into the ';friend'; catagory.


    If she says she's not interested, give her some time and space.





    Within time, go back and reclaim what's rightfully yours! =)





    Just don't try to force it....


    Those are always the worst kind of relationships.





    Well good luck.


    Hope I helped!!!

    Any advice for a sick girl...whose b-day is 2morrow?

    Hey my b-day is tomorrow ad i am sick. My head hurts my muscles ache when I touch something cool it feels weird, I have a fever and a cough. The thing it my birthday is tomorrow and my friends are coming over to sleepover. I went to watch so you think you can dance with my friend (who is invited to the party) the 21st and she wasn't feeling well she had a sore throat. But I think she's fine cause she was still acting like herself. Any way I can try and get better before tomorrow. I want my friends to come hang out but I also don't want to send 4 teenage girls home sick.Any advice for a sick girl...whose b-day is 2morrow?
    advise: take advantage of everyone you see





    EVERYONE

    I need threesome advice!!!! Two guys one girl. im the girl!!! help?

    ok so my man came clean and told me he has a fetish.he wants to watch me get Fu**ed by another man. im ok with the idea, as long as he doesn't get jealous. But ive never done that before. what i want to know is what im supposed to do and say while this is all happening, do i enjoy it?? what positions can i do to involve both of them?? will he think less of me?? im just REALLY new to the whole thing. Anyone done this before?? 2males 1 female?? ive done the 3somes with 2 girls before but we stopped doing that because it made me jealous. But 2guys and me would be really different. what if it gets awkward?? He says he wants to watch me enjoy myself with another man.....ok, but how??? i need some 3some sex advice. HOW DO I MAKE THIS THE MOST ENJOYABLE FOR MY MAN.....guys give me the tips!!! I need to know some tips and tricks that i can do with 2 guys.I need threesome advice!!!! Two guys one girl. im the girl!!! help?
    Hey girl... thanks for your advice for my question... Im answering this question in relation to a previous question of yours...





    I read your previous question about how he kept getting mad at you and you related to the job search... then he asks for a three some with you and wants you to enjoy yourself with another man?? Is there a lot of change in way of his behavior?? Extra nice to you??





    There might be another underlying reason to his fits and men they do not like to make less than women or not be able to work at all... so they get fed up and not attracted to you because of the situation ...some look at other means of satisfaction....he may have cheated on you...and I think he is being extra nice and telling you that he wants you to enjoy another man is a way to make him feel less guilt... Most men like three some with two girls...men freak out and say hell no if its if the couple invites a man for threesome..





    Ask yourself even if you like threesomes...does he treat you the way you want to be treated?..Is there sudden changes in his behavior ?...Notice if he is being extra cautious about his emails, browser, or cell phone...or making excuses that just doesn't add up...





    It may/may not be the case...but it is always good to be alert....








    IF you choose to do three some...dont kiss the guy thats invited in on the lip at all.. enjoy the guy that gets invited in.. but make it as if this is all done for you bf ..dont enjoy the invited guy in more than your bf.. MEN HAVE HUGE EGO! ....watch porn...you have plenty of places they can poke around in lol...





    I'm not into 3some stuff...soo thats all I can tell ya...





    Anyways.. if you are not big fan of 3some ...and dont think you are being treated fairly... you would be beter of with another man...that does not supress you from sucess and grows with you....





    laterz..I need threesome advice!!!! Two guys one girl. im the girl!!! help?
    Hiya!!!





    If he is into it, then he will not get jealous, he simply wants that self assurance that his girl is as good looking as he already knows and the ultimate feeling of this is when you see your girlfriend getting this done.





    Just my opinion but I am pretty sure I am correct!!!





    Dawn
    I think the most obvious would be doggy with the new man behind you and you giving your man a BJ. If you are both up to it you could try Double Penetration. One in each hole
    He will get jealous...don't do it...find a man who respects, cherishes %26amp; loves you for the wonderful person you are.
    just watch porn or something
    your best way of dealing with this is to list some boundary's and say you feel a bit awkward doing this and say what you feel and that he shouldn't be getting jealous cause he is the one who suggested it and may some positions is you on your back the other bloke ******* you as your suck your hubby off on your back you could have the same thing the other way round you could have you sit on the guys **** and then have your hubby enter you from behind if you are able to do that you could also look up so sexual positions for 3somes on the net if you want ideas on what you can do
    If your doing it with 2 men, then they'll treat you however they want.


    You don't need to worry about satisfying them because they'll satisfy themselves.





    If your guy asked you to do it, then he probably won't get jealous, but ask yourself what else or who else is he doing?





    I've never been in one but several friends have and they all said the same thing: Open relationships don't work.





    If you don't really know your boyfriend and the other guy, then maybe enjoy it.


    But remember its gonna be hard to find another man if they find out about it.


    No man except a loser is going to settle for a woman like that.



    Not a guy but I have done this.


    Start by giving them both oral.


    then have 1 go down on u while you contince servicing the other w/ your mouth.


    Great positions are U on all 4's 1 guy behind U %26amp; 1 in your mouth.


    Then you can also ride one with 1 in your mouth.


    try anal too!!!


    then try 1 in the bum %26amp; 1 in the sweet hole.


    Make sure that U have them *** in ur mouth like this..u on ur knees both of them standing up.


    Each one aims his wee-wee at ur mouth and you open wide letting them squirt it all in your mouth and on ur face, make sure u swollow.





    After ward, look to try doing 5 guys at once.

    Is it possible or wise to try to kiss a girl if you are wearing glasses. Any technical advice on this?

    i have kissed a girl before but not since i got glasses. can i just kiss her with my glasses on or do i have to take them off? has anyone out there in Yahoo-land done this before?Is it possible or wise to try to kiss a girl if you are wearing glasses. Any technical advice on this?
    You can kiss on side way, so your glasses will not get blocked.





    JoyceIs it possible or wise to try to kiss a girl if you are wearing glasses. Any technical advice on this?
    Yes, it is possible. Would I do it? No. It is uncomfortable and they always end up getting in the way if things get heated up to any degree..lol Just take them off and you will be just fine.
    if a girl likes you and you wear glasses than she would probably expect you to wear them while you kiss. now if you are getting real down and dirty kiss, you may want to take them off so they won't fall off.
    Do it any way you want......just don't be so uptight about it. It'll be fine. Take them off if you think they'll get in the way. HEY, you figured out where the noses go, you'll figure this one out as well. Good luck!!!
    you better leave them on so you don't kiss her her nose.
    If she has glasses too it might be a little difficult at first but you will get use to it. If she doesn't don't worry about it and just be natural.

    Need advice on impressing a girl .?

    I have already tried writing the question but it failed to sumbit so please excuse my spelling and gramatical errors and do not assume that i am concided. I have tried to impress this girl alot by being myself and showing off my muscles in a descreet way during athletic when we do some track events together. I am 6 foot, asian, lightly tanned, and i have a very athletic and well tonned body type. I have big arms and legs and chest and my 8 pack is getting better but the 6 is the most visible part. I guess i would fit in the school socail class of new kid from Atlanta whos background is alot of party experience, a southern gent =P(what a few girls called me a few days ago haha madfe me feel awesome), I have always been a popular kid but generally modest (except in athletics, if u got it flaunt it) but i am a friendly guy and a overall good person morally i would like to think, But apart from all of this my main question is how can i go above and beyond to impress this girl i really like other than ';being myself'; and just wasting my whole year with the chance i could get rejected, please help!Need advice on impressing a girl .?
    Flirt with her, be friends with her. Judging on your physical description, I don't think your need to impress her anymore.


    or just straight ask her out and you won't have to be wasting the rest of the year wondering if she likes you.


    Good luck. Hope you end up with the results you wanted. ;)Need advice on impressing a girl .?
    If you want someone to take interest in you, maybe the girl you might be after would rather know whats in your brain not what your body looks like. Im not saying that your concieted, but if you really want a girl you should try to impress her with your mind first and body second. because for me, if the guy has nothing but air in his head, i dont care how ripped he is, he isnt worth my time.
    Best thing I got for ya is dont care as much, just quit trying so hard with her, treat her like you treat everyone else..sounds kind the opposite of what to do, but it worked for me I got a beautiful amazing girlfriend and im just an average looking kid, been with her for two years now worth every second, It kind of depends on her personality as well, chances are shes not attracted to the same people my girlfriend is..so maybe you should not do what I said..really you cant get a real answer on here, best thing is go with whatever you feel is best, what you feel fits this girl, what does she like, what does she like to do, is she athletic like you, or is she into something else..the flaunt it if you got it works here too. Here is an example I dont know you so this does not mean im talking about you its just and example, say shes into funny guys, and your not funny..dont try and be funny for her, she will see through that fast, in other words DONT flaunt it. But say she likes a nice guy who listens, and your a good listener, flaunt that. Listen to whatever she has to say, another tip is, most girls are not as into sex appeal as men are, physical appearance is not everything. Sure it makes things easier but it does not mean you are in for the money...Hope this helps, but dont take my word for it. Go with your gut, think before you talk, learn everything you can about her, and it should work out..or it wont and you just gotta deal with it.
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  • Relationship advice. I like a girl and don't know what to do......?

    I met this girl at college and for the past couple of weeks we've been talking on facebook and texting.... luckily we have two classes together and she usually sits by me and I do the same. She invited me to the taco bell on campus once and it was really nice to just sit there and talk but then her friends unexpectedly walked in and the private moment ended.... i know... taco bell...romantic right? But we walk back to our dorms together and as I said we always talk and the conversations never seem to get dull. She invited me to help hand out fliers for the student government party she's a candidate for. I really like her, but I realize that she's super gorgeous and the fact that she has ';options'; I'd like to consider myself average.... about a 5 or 6 on the ';1-10'; attractive scale but she's definitely a 9 or 10. I just don't want to make any moves toward a relationship if I'm not sure she just wants to be friends because the last thing I want to do is make the situation ackward. I'm debating whether or not to ask her best friend, who ive met but I know that thats just going to make things ackward also if she tells her, which she inevitably will. I'm just confused and really don't know how to assess the situation. I've never had much experience around girls I can't really pick up the ';signs'; or hints. What should I do? any advice? thanks.Relationship advice. I like a girl and don't know what to do......?
    You have to see if she likes you... start flirting with her... see how she responds.Relationship advice. I like a girl and don't know what to do......?
    To be brutally honest, you need to stop being a p*ssy. If she has options, and is so amazing then you definitely won't get her by being such a punk. Asking the best friend is the right move if you were 12. You'll just have to suck it up and make a move on her. Women sit around trying to overanalyze and dissect signs but you're going to miss the opportunity by playing this passively. Good looking women can sit around and wait for the right guy, but for men if you want a girl 9 out of 10 times we have to make some sort of effort, and that wouldn't change if you were better looking.





    Since you've only been hanging around her for 2 weeks then start flirting with her. Ask if she wants to hang out with you one night before you get forever trapped in the friend zone.

    Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?

    We were both born and raised in America. We're both greeks in college, which is where we met. I'm a art History Major, he's in Business Admin. Both products of private school. Both a little strong, characterwise. He has met my parents, somewhat affluent from the baby boomer generation: uptight and conservative from the east coast, but were surprisingly receptive to my sweetheart of a boyfriend. They weren't open to him at first, but now, they like him more than my ex, and pretty much residual suitors buzzing around, (all of whom tower over my 5'6'; boyfriend, by a good half foot or so.lol)


    All my sorority sisters think that he's a great catch. And even if the top of his head is eyelevel to me, he has a tall character. He makes me so happy, and safe, and feel so special, and there's really nothing that I want more than to do the same for him.


    So with all that said, His parents are flying in from Seattle in 3 days, and I want to make a good impression. We've been together for almost 2 years now, and my parents see him weekly... but I've never met his parents. I don't want to do or say something demeaning or ignorant, or disrespectful. From what I've heard here and there, English is not their first language, but his father is an Ivy league grad. His mom is a homemaker who took care of her son and daughter. I don't know how traditional they are, but I do know that his dad really wants him to marry a Vietnamese girl. I don't think we're thinking about the marriage route just yet (though I wouldn't mind one bit, except we still have to graduate) but I at least want to know what to do and what not to do when I finally meet the parents of the man I love. My roommate's Chinese, and she says that in her culture, they don't hug, but they bow instead. I wasn't raised like that at all. I was raised with hugs as a salutation.


    I know I might sound a little ignorant, or stupid, but do I refrain from hugging? Should I at least learn how to say ';please'; and ';thank you';? I'm really stressing over this. Help please?Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?
    Okay, I sorta skim through this.XD


    Hmmm~ Refrain from hugging, do bow, and have manners.


    PLease=(La-ah-mung-dee) or (du-uu-k-hom)


    Thank you=(ka-mung)


    Also, wear clothes that looks like what a teacher would wear.^_^Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?
    Okay anybody who reads all this has no life, cause i damn sure didn't.





    I stopped at: ';We're both greeks in college';





    Really? Greeks? I thought you were American and he was Asian.
    pay no attention to micheal m.





    annnd I actually read this, and I'm a geek too (:


    plus.. tell me micheal, if you had a life, why are you busy telling people they dont have a life and attempted to read this..





    jeeez people these days :S





    ohkaayy, so im half vietnamese- and I've noticed that vietnamese parents, prefer there kids to marry vietnamese people.. or asians. buut one of my relatives is vietnamese and she married a white person.. and her family came through and accepted him.





    (:


    anywayss. if you really love him , and want to meet his parents, then just casually ask him.





    don't bow.. or whatever, shake hands instead.


    try greeting them in vietnamese, and learning some little phrases, like nice to meet you.





    also, why not bring his parents for some vietnamese food?





    welll, i know I wasnt much of a help.. but im bored. and yeahh, good luck (:

    Need advice on asking a girl out...?

    Well, my problem is really that I have no idea how to go about doing it in person, because I don't want to ask her out in public so I'm going to have to ask her out over the phone. The only problem is that I only text her and never actually talk over the phone to her, so I can't really get a conversation going to lead up to me asking her out, and my previous plan seemed a bit awkward. My plan was to call her up and say: ';Hey, two questions, what's the math homework and will you go out with me?'; but some of my friends tell me that it would be a bit of a surprise and wouldn't work all that well...





    So how do you guys suggest I go about asking her out?Need advice on asking a girl out...?
    Start talking to her at school, just say 'Hi, whats up' to start things off. After you both feel comfortable, start to call her on the phone. Ask 'How are you doing' and stuff like that.





    Eventually, say something like this: 'I was wondering if you wanted to go out to the movies with me on the weekend. Thought we could see _____'





    It won't feel awkward and maybe she'll catch on ;-)

    Need advice, I want this girl to become my girlfriend but at the same time I want my options (please answer)?

    I've got a weird problem. There's this girl I'm currently talking to. We're both interested in each other and we both know it. We're not officially dating yet, but we probably will shortly (she's playing hard to get, but in a cute coy way). We've been talking every day since we met, which is mostly online lately (no time to see each other with exams and all), like I'll be just on my computer and she'll start talking to me, calling me hun, baby, love, etc. Anyway, here's my problem, I feel that we have a connection and I'd like her to be my gf (which isn't like me at all). But at the same time I want to be able to have options, like I don't want to commit to her (which is a problem since she won't want me seeing other girls probably). Do you have any advice?Need advice, I want this girl to become my girlfriend but at the same time I want my options (please answer)?
    if you want to date her but you also want to have ';options'; then i would say that your confused and should just be her friend until you really know what you want. Dont be a selfish prick and date her then decide that this other girl over here is a little cooler, take her feelings into consideration. If your just her friend and develop that friendship then decide that you dont want to date, the worst thing is that she may be a little isappointed but she isn't hurt. I you just rush into this you could break her heart and lose a good friend. Gotta think about other peoples feelings and emotions, everyone reacts differently to situations. gurls appreciate guys who think about them like that.

    Any advice for an American girl moving to Delhi?

    Hi...I'm going to move to New Delhi next year in March. My fiance is there. I just wanted some advice about settling in and hopefully I can find a part-time job. I don't need much... I really want to learn more Hindi...I can read and write and understand somewhat...I know I stood out when I was there before (blonde girl here)...I want to fit in though - any advice? I love India...smile. Not sure how Americans are seen in India - but I'm not typical American girl...I love family and I don't care much about money...anyway - anything helpful you can tell me would be great. Just want to know more about life in Delhi and maybe advice on finding a part-time job (I was a teacher for 13 years and I'm a counselor now...I can do office work, though, too). Also - any information about immigration would be great! How can I stay in India long-term? If I have a job is that good enough? :)Any advice for an American girl moving to Delhi?
    Migrating is a big decision to make, there is a lot of consideration that you need to consider, review and double check. There are a lot of U.S. companies that have business operations in India, you want to check the web for these companies - most are information and communication technology companies like Cisco, IBM, and Microsoft, and you may want to start applying for a job. Learning Hindi is a good way of making yourself comfortable with the environment, but you need not push yourself learning it in a zip. People of India, especially in the urban areas, are accustomed to speaking in English. You will learn Hindi along the way.





    India's weather, especially the southern part, is humid and warm, a lot of adjustment will be expected in terms of temperature, frequency of rain and thunderstorm. Traffic and road rules are not the sames as in U.S., you will get used to crossing the street without traffic lights and signs, congested roads and smog from moving vehicles.





    You may want to check the U.S. Embassy in India (New Delhi) for more enlightening information.





    Do not be discouraged, there are a lot of good things you will experience in India. Love conquers all, being close to your fiance' whenever and wherever is the best thing that will happen to you.





    Enjoy and god luck.Any advice for an American girl moving to Delhi?
    how old are u? n leme know if u still need help ok?

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    Your fiancee will tell / teach you all. Have faith in him.
    I AM INDIAN BOY. I AM STUDENT FOR DEGREE COLLEGE.
    a simple advice cheap clotes are not aloud here so please choose some good clothes and one more snce u are comming to india when u come the best thing is to eat chats u certainly will love it!
    Delhi, as you know is a metro with high crime rates. Be careful of whatever you do in public. Never go alone. move with crowd.


    Delhi has got lot to enjoy. enjoy them in company. all the best.
    Hello- I don't know anything about foreign travel but I have been to every state of the United States.


    I realize a very different venture but safety practices are still the same.


    Try to align yourself with public organizations that will give you an active presence in India. Make sure you have some kind of tracing line back to you for safety reasons!


    Have a great time!!! I think it's wonderful and an exciting adventure!!!! Lucky you!!


    I suggest you keep a journal-written and electronic.


    Always keep a cell phone with you and if there is an American embassy or some kind of American organization stay associated with them.


    Be well!! Take care!


    If you keep a daily journal maybe this could become a book someday for you!


    Again---Have a great time!
    Namaste and Welcome!





    As somebody suggested - don't go out alone, especially after dark. Beware of the pickpockets and taxi and auto-rickshaw drivers. People are nice in general but India is diverse and may be overwhelming initially. India has one of the oldest tradition of extremely rich culture. Being in India may feel like being on a different planet. You'll find all kind of people in Delhi. Avoid fishy people and enjoy the company of good ones. The official website of the Bureau of Immigration may provide more information: http://immigrationindia.nic.in/





    Pimsuler Language Programs Series has good Hindi programs that can help you converse in standard Hindi.








    Good Luck!
    i suggest that u must be careful all the time n just have fun....u will understand in few days
    Apply for a work visa, be careful of lusty men, watch your money and have fun. People there act nicer to fair people so you will be alright! Just don't give up your citizenship to become Indian. Also watch out for bad water, food and mosquitoes which cause malaria.
    New Delhi is simply cool!!!! It has a lot to offer.


    You can also work in a call center as an accent trainer. The pay package is wonderful. But I guess you would need a work permit, which is quite easy to get (unlike the US of A). To stay in India for a long term, you need to be a citizen (the short-cut is to get married to an Indian guy ;-)......


    Come to India %26amp; Explore our rich heritage......and one last thing...the facilities that we have in India is at par with the rest of the world....so CHEERS!!!!!

    Good advice for a teenage girl!! please help me!!?

    i am 14 have small boobs and an ok body that looks like my age ,i kinda look like demi moore the actor..anyway there is this 18 year old (my moms boyfreinds son) who i think likes me because he stares at me when i sleep and when he thinks i am not looking, he nudges me and gives me small hugs for no reason at all, he asked me if ive ever kissed anyone, asked me to give him a hand massage and always touches me in small ways appropraitly and he always sings around me like lil wayne and some nasty stuff about ***** and looks at my body all the time .. he follows me around and likes to be around me....he is not the type to do something stupid.... i am underage of course .. he is good looking but i dont want to get involved ....do u guys think that he likes me?? if so what should i do not to get involved ???....thanxGood advice for a teenage girl!! please help me!!?
    i know he likes u and i think u should put a lock on ur door


    and maybe in the future add a pic to this so we know why he is stalking u in ur houseGood advice for a teenage girl!! please help me!!?
    I think that us a weird situation being that he is your mom's boyfriends son..i think that if you do not like what he is doing you should tell him..
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  • I need advice on how to ask out a girl?

    Me and my friend were walking on the sidewalk yesterday and two hot chicks in their yard asked to take pics with us and if they could put it on their facebooks, we did, but we want to go back and ask them out maybe but what shld we sayI need advice on how to ask out a girl?
    Honestly thats a horrible way to start a relation ship and if i were them i would be freaked out. But just start to become friends and when you are close ask her out. Dont say anything cheesy like is it hot in here or is it just you. That stuff is just stupid. Make sure you are real to her no lies and be yourself. You want her to like you for who you are and not for what you are and not for what your trying to be.I need advice on how to ask out a girl?
    maybe, just maybe, you could go up to them and say '; Hey, we were just wondering if you guys would want to go see a movie/pizza/ whatever you want to do.';





    I mean Just maybe in the slightest chance
    just walk past as if you didnt go there to specifically ask them out, then say:


    '; hi again. we were wonderin if u wanted to come to 'where ever' with us?';


    mine -


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    find the facebook account that they put the pics on and leave a commment saying '; wow, they are pretty cute guys, you should ask them out! '; it should work :)
    just be cooooool. say something like, hey we were going to go get ice cream, wanna come? or something like that.

    I need some advice with a shy girl!!! Girls Plz!!?

    There's this shy girl I like. She's got me to notice her and would do things to get my attention. She came up with a nickname for me, and has given me signs that she likes me for 2 years. She would get nervous when she was around me, and has given me alot of stares. I told her I liked her in may and she was hiding a smile when I told her. I could make her smile easily without making her laugh. She asked me to dance with her at a dance at school. She talks about me around her family, she told me she wanted to get to know me and start out as friends. Then


    There was a dance at school, and she asked me to dance with her there. We were dancing and then people started taking pictures of us, and teasing us. Then we were done dancing and she told me she asked me to dance cuz she wanted to dance with me. The dance was over and we couldn’t stop making eye contact, the look she gave me showed me her real feelings. The next day at school she is telling her friends that she danced with me cuz she felt sorry for me. But also she was giving me signs she liked me the next day too.


    What should I believe what she told me or what she told her friends?


    P.s. she has a fear of getting hurt and has never had a boyfriend.I need some advice with a shy girl!!! Girls Plz!!?
    You should believe what she told you. The stuff with her friends is just talk. She doesn't want to get made fun of by her friends. She will have to take the leap to a relationship, some day, so try to ease her mind and show her you care about her fears and feelings. Get her to talk to you about her fears and reassure her that you will be gentle and that you really care about her. Good luckI need some advice with a shy girl!!! Girls Plz!!?
    ask her out---it's pretty clear she likes you, and I think she probably just said that to her friends because of her fear of being hurt. She feels vulnerable because of her feelings for you, I think, so she is not sure whether or not she wants any of her friends to know about them. I think she would say yes if you asked her out, though.
    She really likes you, but is scared of comitting and doesn't want to get hurt. Just tell her exactly how you feel. That you really care about her, and that she's special, and that you would never hurt her. You both need to be clear about your feelings, and since she's shy you need to make the first move. What you two have is really rare- I'd love to have a relationship like that. Good luck.
    she playin games.thats what shy stoopid girls do hehe sorry.you jus have to be straight foward with her without putting her in an akward position.it doesn't seem like she too shy cuz she asked you to dance.lmao.if she never had a boifriend then obviously she probably doesn't know how to kiss or what to say or how to make out.so dun make that weird for her.dun tease her on her lack of experience.sorry if that doesn't help.btw baby she diggginnn you!
    She likes you but her self -esteem is shot because either she realizes people think she is uncool and she is bringing you down so she can bring herself up or she just has major issues. Simply just suck it up and let her know you like her or not and ask her whats really going on. If she wants to play games and doesn't open up to you then forget about her.
    well if thee lil girl never had a boyfriend she dosent need to say she danced with you cuz she felt srry but you need to confront her cuz it may make you look badd.ppl will start to think she dance with you out of pitty.


    if i was you i wouldent like her because of that.she needs to GROW UP.!!!!
    she could have told her friends that because it would be embarrassing for her, ?


    but all i know is that that's how i am ahaha. well i think she likes you. but start out as her friend %26amp; like help her out with her problems and give her lotsss of compliments.


    eventually she'll trust you enough to go out with you.


    hope you two end up going outtt (:
    She probably really likes you, and is just embarrassed about it. I think she's afraid her friends might make a big deal about it and tell EVERYONE, or she's afraid they might tease her. If you really like her, then go for it, and hope it works out really well... Good Luck ☆!!!
    it's up to you, maybe her friend is teasing her that you are his boyfriend already which is not yet, so she might answer back that she just felt sorry so that she dance with you. if i where you i will ask her directly if she like you or not
    if what you said is all true, then it sounds like she likes you a lot but she is afraid of what her friends might think of you.if they dont like you, she might pretend that she doesnt like you either when deep down inside, she really does.i no because i have done that before.
    i seriously think she is immature i suggest you pull her aside and tell her to tell you what her deal is tell her you arent a toy for her to lead you on and put you down and play with you how she feels like. i think she likes you though how old is she 12?





    please answer :-)


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    I'm sure she just said that to her friends because she was being teased. She likes you. Just do something romantic like leave her a flower, or a short note. Ask her out in a group setting, casual, go slow. She's nervous. Good luck!
    well,u said they started making fun of you-maybe she felt bad and invented dat to tell her friends.eather way,no one knows whats on her mind,so go talk to her.when you talk to her look in her eyes so she can't resist and tell the truth!
    ask her why she told her her friends that and tell her how you really feel and dont feel you need to fall in love at such a young age sounds to me like she has a lot of problems if she is fronting put her in her place nicely
    It sounds like she really does like you and I think you should keep talking to her and try to make her less shy around you. Also if you do ask her out dont surprise too much. Good luck dude.
    She didn't ask you to dance because she felt sorry for you; she asked you because she likes you! Sounds like she just wants to take it slow. Just keep charming her and give it some time.
    She totally likes u. Don't sweat it. Just tell her that if she dosent tell you the truth about why she danced with you then you don't know that you could ever trust her.
    Just be really friendly and hang out a lot, eventually she'll be comfortable around you plus girls at a young age get scared some guys can be really mean if you tell them you like them so just keep being friends and see where it goes
    first of all,forget outsiders and focused between you and her.


    if she really likes you and you as well go for her.


    maybe those are just rumors trying to get you mixed
    Call her out on what she said. The only way to know is if you talk to her about the situation. Don't let her play games like that.





    She probably does like you but is confused about what to do.
    Oh that explains why she said that to her friends she really shy and never around a type a guy you should bulive her what she told you not what she told her friends.
    i think you confront her talk to her alone like on date and i think that u show her that its ok u WONT hurt her only if u wont
    Well, she shouldnt have said anything like that to her freinds. If she meant what she said, then shes a real.... get rid of her.
    umm wow well i think she likes you but she probably wants to make herself all cool now.. tht was pretty stupid for her to go tell her friends that
    This is strictly my opinion but she could just be play'n you bro
    yeah she doesnt want 2 get hurt. well i think u should believe what she said 2 u. b/c she probably only told her friend that b/c of peer


    presure or whatever. i think u should ask her. and if she says that what she said 2 u was true ask her why she lyed 2 her friend. what ever she says or does will determine if she really meant what she said 2 u or what she said 2 her friend. o and i think u need 2 watch some chick flicks! u wouldnt have 2 ask us people of the online world b/c would u already know!
    She doesn't sound very shy to me- that wasn't very considerate of her at the dance. I'm a little confused as to what her motives are. To keep staring at you and smiling sounds like she likes you, but that stunt she pulled at the dance seems the opposite. She sounds like a sneaky character to me, she could've made up that thing about being afraid of getting hurt. I am a very quiet girl myself and it would not be in my nature to lie to a guy that I liked. I would suggest backing away from her for a while and watch her throughout the school day. I have learned a lot about people just by observing their actions. You may discover something else suspicious that she has done. You might decide that you don't like her anymore. Think about why you like her. Is she pretty, smart, nice, friendly? (Her behavior doesn't make her sound nice). Good luck!
    If I was in these girls shoes,I would want you to tell me how you felt and MAYBE ask me out after(that's only if your reaction is good).Shy girls have a hard time with admitting they're feelings because they don't want attention brought to them. SO when you tell her I would do it over the phone, in text, or when you two are alone at school or hanging out one on one. You sound like you really have an intense crush and she to you so I would just go for it(:


    Hoped I helped
    the P.S. ANSWERS ALL OF THAT. she is ok with going a little bit of the way, but not all the way. You need to step up and be more aggressive with her, and let her know that you like her.It sounds like she is doing all the work anyhow, sweetie. Its too much he said she said. If she felt THAT sorry for you she wouldnt put that much time and attention into you. She may have felt pressure by her friends and ';fronted'; Guys do it all the time or else she could have been teasing or just being silly, to play off the fact that she likes you so much. TWO years? Why r you still wasting time?
    your so called friend seems to be very afraid to get close to some one but that doesn't stop you from asking her out. ya i know its scary but a girl like that i bet probably 70% she would say yes to you. she seems out going only with people in her family or her best friends. she doesnt wwant to get hurt by you. think she just said those things to her friends becuase she doesnt trust you a hundred percent. she feeels she cant but most likely is afraid to get scratched out into the nobody pile to you. plus tips and advice: never hate her!!! or at least tell her that. i always say this becuase its true but do what will make you wake up in the morning and smile at.
    Personally, I think that she danced with you because she likes you. A lot of people do not believe it, but the eyes are ';the windows to the soul.';


    What she told her friends might have been a lie because she wanted them to stay her friends. (Being shy, she might have problems making good friends and keeps any friends she makes, no matter how rude, or mean they may be)


    If you like her, give her a chance, but don't push her, or put her on the spot.


    Hope it works out.

    Need advice to get this girl I like?

    So years back in the 8th grade I was a bit of a nihilist and didn't care for relationships. In fact, a lot of girls liked me and asked me out, but alas, I rejected every offer (I'm shy). So one girl gave me a love letter. She was into Naruto and junk back then but I wasn't interested. I was going to read the letter later, but forgot about it for about a week, which I regret. Later, my mom cleaned out my bookbag and found the letter. I was embarrassed after she was reading it and making fun of it with my brother. I was so embarrassed that I snatched the letter, ripped it up, and threw it away.





    Ok, so the next year, 9th grade. I saw her occasionally and she gave me a shy look as well. I was beginning to actually like her, or grow attached to her, in other words. The year passed and nothing happened. She'd say hi to me in the 8th grade. I'm sure she was still very much interested.





    I changed schools the next year and, well, yeah, that year went by quick, but then I changed back to my original high school.





    I failed my freshman year and she and the rest of my class are now above me.... k.............................. Anyway, I guess she had a surprised look that I was back that year. A month later, she started to sit across from me in the lunch foyer, reading books and giving me occasional looks. Like, the shy kind that if I saw her looking at me, she'd turn real fast and act like she was reading her book.





    I have a nack for making the wrong face at the wrong times and I guess I made a face that scared her off one day. The rest of the days, she'd look at me a few times and, well, yeah. Once, she was even walking in the hallway and I was right behind her (she knew) and she started walking slowly and turned around to see if I was looking but I turned to the staircase right as she did. I tried to seem uninterested, yet I really liked her. I sabotaged myself in this perspective. Later, she started to hang out with more of her friends and, well, I haven't seen interest come from her. She might've had a boyfriend by now, although I can't be sure. I thought about her all summer and now, back at school, I see her and feel like my ******* heart if going to malfunction. I try not to look at her to the point where she notices but damn. I felt like I was going to have a seizure next period. I want to talk to her and get to know her, but I'm too ******* shy. To exemplify how ****** up I am, I've never had a friend in my entire school life and have always been known as the quiet guy. Although some people say that I look like I'd be a fun sociable person (people say that I'm cute as a button and even compare me to Kurt Cobaine in looks).





    In that 8th grade letter, she probably wrote things that she probably expects me to know right now, which is why I regret it.





    I have no idea what to ******* do. I've given off the 'not interested' impression, this I know. I know her myspace but am too afraid to message her and see how she feels. She's a bit of a heavy set girl, dyes her hair, likes comicbooks, manga, and anime from what I know. I've even seen her working at my local theater and I know I looked like a total loser when I showed my face there.








    I don't want to look like a stalker just making a myspace and messaging her. She has a lot of friends and is pretty good at talking to others but shy with me, I guess.





    Also, by wrong face, I meant the grumpy kind. I usually have this mindset and accidentally look at people with it on. Not like I made a face like that with the intention of scaring her away.





    Advice would be very much appreciated. ._.Need advice to get this girl I like?
    haha dam that was long, anyway I know the wrong face your talking about I have accidentaly giving it to many girls and turned them off quick. Anyway this may seem like a crappy answer but its the best thing in my opinion. When you see her 1st day of school simply ask her how her summer was, then intoduce yourself. If you feel a good vibe going your in so after a couple days of talking I'd ask her out or at least get her number.


    Remember man what are you scared of?? rejection?? trust me not knowing if you would have made a good couple is worse than being rejected.

    Ladies: Advice on dating a girl?

    This girl and I used to go out a couple of years ago...and ever since then we have remained quite close, despite how mean we were to each other after. However, she has recently broken up with her boyfriend, because she kind of had a thing with me and he found out, and there were major trust issues in their relationship since then.


    So ever since their relationship started to go sour at the end of summer she started to contact and see me again. We are very comfortable with each other, always have been, and she has slept with me in bed a few days ago (no hanky panky! but underwear and cudling). But she seems to be getting very flirtatious now, clearly indicating that she really likes me and being a bit jealous of other girls which is quite cute. She plays with my feet under the table blahblah and hints naughty things lol...no kissing though or anything more has happened so far. Now we're going out for a nice dinner tomorrow night...any advice girls?





    Thanks xLadies: Advice on dating a girl?
    The question for you to think about is do you like her?


    Are you willing to take the risk of going to the next step of


    a relationship?





    But I guess she is trying to show you that how important and worthy you are to her now. By telling me what happen I think you're a pretty cool man, make her happy. And you're a guy that can have a shoulder to cry on. So save it for her. Good Luck go for it, asking her out if you want.Ladies: Advice on dating a girl?
    If it didn't work the first time what makes u think it will work now
    sounds like everything is going pretty good, just keep doing what your doing, and if anything goes wrong feel free to contact me and ask some more questions. lol. :)

    Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?

    We were both born and raised in America. We're both greeks in college, which is where we met. I'm a art History Major, he's in Business Admin. Both products of private school. Both a little strong, characterwise. He has met my parents, somewhat affluent from the baby boomer generation: uptight and conservative from the east coast, but were surprisingly receptive to my sweetheart of a boyfriend. They weren't open to him at first, but now, they like him more than my ex, and pretty much residual suitors buzzing around, (all of whom tower over my 5'6'; boyfriend, by a good half foot or so.lol)


    All my sorority sisters think that he's a great catch. And even if the top of his head is eyelevel to me, he has a tall character. He makes me so happy, and safe, and feel so special, and there's really nothing that I want more than to do the same for him.


    So with all that said, His parents are flying in from Seattle in 3 days, and I want to make a good impression. We've been together for almost 2 years now, and my parents see him weekly... but I've never met his parents. I don't want to do or say something demeaning or ignorant, or disrespectful. From what I've heard here and there, English is not their first language, but his father is an Ivy league grad. His mom is a homemaker who took care of her son and daughter. I don't know how traditional they are, but I do know that his dad really wants him to marry a Vietnamese girl. I don't think we're thinking about the marriage route just yet (though I wouldn't mind one bit, except we still have to graduate) but I at least want to know what to do and what not to do when I finally meet the parents of the man I love. My roommate's Chinese, and she says that in her culture, they don't hug, but they bow instead. I wasn't raised like that at all. I was raised with hugs as a salutation.


    I know I might sound a little ignorant, or stupid, but do I refrain from hugging? Should I at least learn how to say ';please'; and ';thank you';? I'm really stressing over this. Help please?Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?
    This is a crazy thought but try talking to your boyfriend. He knows them the best and what is accepted in his houselhold. And his parents expectations.


    Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?
    I'm Vietnamese and yes, most traditional Viet parents would rather their children marry someone Viet also. My parents aren't like most traditional Vietnamese at all, however when I was little and I visited my relatives, they'd make me put my arms together (I can't really describe it lol) and bow. I don't know if Vietnamese people these days still do that, but you could ask your boyfriend. Just use common courtesy (please, thank you, yes ma'am/sir) and you should be fine. =)


    PS: Don't stress over it or try too hard to impress them!
    well im an australian girl and my hubby is vietnamese, like wise with his parenrs they wanted him 2 have a viet girl, but once they met me and seen i loved him, lets jst say they r happy he married me. we still do have quiet diff cultural diversities but learn 2 adapt... goodluck , love light n peace 2u xxx
    i think when you meet them you should say ';chao bac'; or something like that, or use chao chu and chao cho for younger elders.in vietnamese it is very respectful when you greet someones parents that way. plus theyll probably like it that you took your time to learn something vietnamese.

    Any advice for me on how to try to get with a girl that i like?

    really importantAny advice for me on how to try to get with a girl that i like?
    i am now married but i dated for 10 years. i found the things that work the most our 1. when she is speaking listen to her. 2. don't brag about yourself to try to bring yourself up. if she's interested in you she will ask it this will give you something to talk about later. 3. ask a lot of quiestions about her family. most girls love that. 4. if your in school offer to carry her books for her. 5. if she finds you attractive and trusts you then you got a good chance.Any advice for me on how to try to get with a girl that i like?
    Do nice things for me. Lend an ear if she needs to talk, compliment her, ask her out on a date...
    Be yourself be honest and listen to her , ask questions about her and give honest replys.
    everyone always gives really cheesey answers or really perverted answers to the this question. just ask her out with confidence and she wont say no.
    Get involve with her. Do things that she likes to do. Ask her questions. See what she likes and envolve your questions around the things she likes. First make her feel comfortable around you and become friends. Flirt with her a little bit so that will set you aside from friends too. But yeah.. tell her that you like her and then see what she thinks of this situation.
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  • Relationship Advice ( Falling for a girl ) but then she says she needs space?

    Hey people just need a little help, pretty much to sum everything up in nut shell, i have been seeing this girl for about 2 months, we both go to school together but we are in opposite careers, we started to talk around the 3 day of school, then we started to hang out for a bit and then started to date/seeing each other each, all of a sudden last week she started to get distance, but reason for this she had to take some medication for her bacterial infection which the side effects are mood swings, which is not that big of a problem, the beginning of this week she states that she needs some space to think about her problems, now i m not going in depth but 1 big issue is that, her past relationships no guy has really treated her good, now that she has met me she says no guy has ever treated her like i have ( pretty much willing to listen to her problems, help her with her problems, willing to do things for her, telling her to call me anytime if anything goes wrong, be there for her and pretty much that's it, at the sametime she also said that she does not want to get hurt again, but she says that she's falling for me so much and i feel the same also, but with all her saying these stuff 1 month in and then all of a sudden she needs space, makes no sense for me what so ever, also this one guy that is her ex that she was seeing seems to be back in the picture but he has his own issues to deal with, and is placing blame on her for his dead mother, i just need some advice right now, cause im falling for this girl almost everyday and it kills us both at school that she said to me that she needs space but i can see it in her eyes that she stills wants us to be together..Relationship Advice ( Falling for a girl ) but then she says she needs space?
    because she sees you so great she prob is fearful of losing you. She prob has been through enough heartbreaks and the needing space is because she probably needs to stop getting freaked out that you will leave. if shes telling you those things they are prob true, and shes prob trying to tell you shes not used to it and shes scared you will leave. talk to her about it. ask her if shes scared you'll leave, and promise, only if its true that you won't. make her see it. goodluck.Relationship Advice ( Falling for a girl ) but then she says she needs space?
    You need to run as fast as you can. When she needs distance, you are history - especially with this ex in the picture. It's the old ';bad boy syndrome';. Girls like her can't stay away from the troubled guys that need help and her thoughts are that she's going to save him even though he'll pull her down first. Forget what her eyes say. She may want you but her low self-esteem will never let her have you. You're gonna get hurt.

    Relationship Advice ( Falling for a girl ) but then she says she needs space?

    Hey people just need a little help, pretty much to sum everything up in nut shell, i have been seeing this girl for about 2 months, we both go to school together but we are in opposite careers, we started to talk around the 3 day of school, then we started to hang out for a bit and then started to date/seeing each other each, all of a sudden last week she started to get distance, but reason for this she had to take some medication for her bacterial infection which the side effects are mood swings, which is not that big of a problem, the beginning of this week she states that she needs some space to think about her problems, now i m not going in depth but 1 big issue is that, her past relationships no guy has really treated her good, now that she has met me she says no guy has ever treated her like i have ( pretty much willing to listen to her problems, help her with her problems, willing to do things for her, telling her to call me anytime if anything goes wrong, be there for her and pretty much that's it, at the sametime she also said that she does not want to get hurt again, but she says that she's falling for me so much and i feel the same also, but with all her saying these stuff 1 month in and then all of a sudden she needs space, makes no sense for me what so ever, also this one guy that is her ex that she was seeing seems to be back in the picture but he has his own issues to deal with, and is placing blame on her for his dead mother, i just need some advice right now, cause im falling for this girl almost everyday and it kills us both at school that she said to me that she needs space but i can see it in her eyes that she stills wants us to be together..Relationship Advice ( Falling for a girl ) but then she says she needs space?
    because she sees you so great she prob is fearful of losing you. She prob has been through enough heartbreaks and the needing space is because she probably needs to stop getting freaked out that you will leave. if shes telling you those things they are prob true, and shes prob trying to tell you shes not used to it and shes scared you will leave. talk to her about it. ask her if shes scared you'll leave, and promise, only if its true that you won't. make her see it. goodluck.Relationship Advice ( Falling for a girl ) but then she says she needs space?
    You need to run as fast as you can. When she needs distance, you are history - especially with this ex in the picture. It's the old ';bad boy syndrome';. Girls like her can't stay away from the troubled guys that need help and her thoughts are that she's going to save him even though he'll pull her down first. Forget what her eyes say. She may want you but her low self-esteem will never let her have you. You're gonna get hurt.

    Dating advice needed!!! Is this girl really worth it?

    Alright, I'm going out with this girl. She's got all the qualities that any guy would want in someone. She's got a great career, intelligent, graduated from a good school, outgoing, and attractive. The only problem is.....I CAN'T SEEM TO FIGURE HER OUT!!





    In a nutshell she's beautiful to look at, fascinating in some ways, but puzzling. I tend to be more confused each time we go out (then again, a lot of things confuse me). She'll be chatty on the phone then hardly give a word in person. She'll say we should get together then seem indifferent when you do. Maybe it's b/c she gets a lot of attention from men so she doesn't have to try, maybe she's indecisive, or maybe she's just playing me.





    Can somebody tell me if this girl is worth dating? I'm too confused over her!Dating advice needed!!! Is this girl really worth it?
    She sounds like a catch. I think she has feelings for you, and when she sees you, she is a little reserved and maybe even a little bit shy. I am like that with the person I've been dating.... we chat on the phone for maybe 2 hours (in one conversation), and then when I see him, I can't really think of anything to say for the first couple hours. Then once I'm comfortable... we are chatting up a storm. She may really like you and may just be shy at first... but I think she is definitely worth it. Chances are, if you give her some more time, you will get to know her a lot better and will be able to ';figure her out.';Dating advice needed!!! Is this girl really worth it?
    The best thing I can say is when I first starting dating my boyfriend (of 2 years now) I would be way way way talkative and funny on the phone. Then in person I would be really shy and kind of awkward because I thought he was so gorgeous that it sent my mind racing and I'd get all flustered. He thought I was not interested but the fact I kept wanting to hang out kept him going. Now things are amazing.





    Some girls just get really shy in person. I wouldn't give her all the attention in the world. And what's the importance of ';figuring her out'; where is the fun in that. I don't think men will ever really figure us out hahaha. If you keep thinking about her and want to see her keep dating her until it's not fun any more, it could be the best thing, and if not oh well at least you won't say what if.

    Dating advice 101...dating a girl, feel like just telling her what's up...help?

    I'm 22, I've always been the outside guy for girls in relationships, and very casually dated, for various reasons. Anyways. Haven't had a relationship in a really long time, it'd be nice, what can I say, and this girl I believe likes me that I've been dating for a few weeks is driving me F*@%ng crazy. She just got out of a yearlong relationship and all, and I really just want to say what I feel, but anyone and everyone knows you don't talk about your emotions with a girl you're dating...gotta be mystery, obviously. But at the same time, would it hurt to just say me true feelings in a Rico Suave sort of way?Dating advice 101...dating a girl, feel like just telling her what's up...help?
    For real? Honest communication is the foundation for lasting relationships, Hollywood and the media have brainwashed our culture into thinking that drama filled relationships are normal and even exciting. Having ';mystery'; is nothing compared to the bond and closeness that comes from being completely open and honest with a loved one. Granted your relationship is fairly new, you should talk to her about where you want this relationship to go, and express your true feelings. A relationship that has secrets always ends badly.Dating advice 101...dating a girl, feel like just telling her what's up...help?
    i wud say tell her straight out how u feel..girls always like it wen guys are upfront about their feelings..do u feel like she wud want u as a bf as well n if u think she wud then u shud make the move because girls dont wanna seem easy n guys should make the move so u should do it n treat her n a likable way dont give her the wrong impression that u might just want her to mess round or stuff...n maybe give her a call...
    if the chick is younger than 25, then you better make sure you stay mysterious





    older chicks can appreciate when a man is man enough to open up a LITTLE (only a little) but younger chicks don't respond well to that





    so just stay in what rappers call ';pimp mode';
    i think you should go for it. giving it a shot wont do any harm

    Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?

    We were both born and raised in America. We're both greeks in college, which is where we met. I'm a art History Major, he's in Business Admin. Both products of private school. Both a little strong, characterwise. He has met my parents, somewhat affluent from the baby boomer generation: uptight and conservative from the east coast, but were surprisingly receptive to my sweetheart of a boyfriend. They weren't open to him at first, but now, they like him more than my ex, and pretty much residual suitors buzzing around, (all of whom tower over my 5'6'; boyfriend, by a good half foot or so.lol)


    All my sorority sisters think that he's a great catch. And even if the top of his head is eyelevel to me, he has a tall character. He makes me so happy, and safe, and feel so special, and there's really nothing that I want more than to do the same for him.


    So with all that said, His parents are flying in from Seattle in 3 days, and I want to make a good impression. We've been together for almost 2 years now, and my parents see him weekly... but I've never met his parents. I don't want to do or say something demeaning or ignorant, or disrespectful. From what I've heard here and there, English is not their first language, but his father is an Ivy league grad. His mom is a homemaker who took care of her son and daughter. I don't know how traditional they are, but I do know that his dad really wants him to marry a Vietnamese girl. I don't think we're thinking about the marriage route just yet (though I wouldn't mind one bit, except we still have to graduate) but I at least want to know what to do and what not to do when I finally meet the parents of the man I love. My roommate's Chinese, and she says that in her culture, they don't hug, but they bow instead. I wasn't raised like that at all. I was raised with hugs as a salutation.


    I know I might sound a little ignorant, or stupid, but do I refrain from hugging? Should I at least learn how to say ';please'; and ';thank you';? I'm really stressing over this. Help please?Any advice for an American Girl dating a Vietnamese Boy?
    You should ask him some questions about his parents before they arrive. If they do not speak english that well I think it would give a nice first impression if you knew how to say simple things like hi, how are you, please, thank you etc. As for hugging them, I wouldn't hug them unless they go in to hug you. Not everyone is comfortable with that type of salutation. Again just ask your boyfriend some questions about his parents before they come like whether they are traditional, would they mind if you hugged them hello, etc. Good luck!

    Any advice for a confused girl?

    -F*ck buddies on and off for a year.


    -Stopped talking to me for a month because he was mad that he had heard I hooked up with another guy at a party.


    -We've held hands, argue, and hung out a lot like couples do.





    -He calls before he goes to sleep every three-four days. We talk about life and random things.


    -The other night he calls 10 times from 6-8pm. I couldn't answer because I was at work. We hung out once I got out of work.


    -What do you think he wants? I'm really confused. I don't think I LIKE him but I do LIKE him as a friend. Advice?





    Can I get REAL ADVICE as to what he wants, what I should do, and how to approach this situation?Any advice for a confused girl?
    give him sometime to cool off





    then ask him what he wants


    and give him the response


    maybe he thinks this is an 'exclusive relationship'


    anyway discuss with him once he cooled off
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  • Any advice on my current girl problem?

    ok well i have a slight problem.





    i like these three girls.





    1.) crazy, silly, fun, gorgeous, preppy with an amazing smile.





    2.) a little more laid back, hyper, and very random.





    3.) past, loved by my family, even has a key to my house...





    but there are downfalls to each girl.





    1.) lives 23 miles away. in an abusive relationship with some ***hole. have to wait untill july to be with her.





    2.) she is one of my ex's best friends, all my friends are crushing on her, anddd she can be VERY shy...





    3.) pretty messed up past, she has hurt me ALOT, left me for 8 of my closest family, and almost made me kill myself.








    ok i know the choice should be pretty obvious to you guys but it really isnt that clear to me.





    please help???Any advice on my current girl problem?
    I think you should go with number one.


    Number two is kinda off limits, since your friends like her too..


    and Number three made you attempt suicide?


    Even though One lives 23 miles away, you two could still be together. And YES you would save her life if you saved her from ';Abusive Boyfriend.'; Then she would be like, the most perfect girl to you EVER because you will have saved her sanity. Maybe you should talk to her more, talk her into leaving him. I'm sure she's terrified to get him out of her life. You said he is abusive, correct? Well...maybe shes afraid if she bolts that he is going to harm her? Or worse? Maybe you could offer to be there while she does it?


    Whatever you decide, i wish you the best.


    and i will pray for you and ';Number One';





    post an update, whatever you decide.


    or add details.


    good luckAny advice on my current girl problem?
    hmm... this is a tough one.. personally, i would say either 1 or 2. like another girl said before me. if you save number 1 from that relationship, you would be her hero. and number 2 really is fair game. it just depends on whether you want to deal with the drama that would come of it.





    it really just comes down to who you can see yourself with. who makes you happy. just please don't choose 3. you don't want to put yourself in that situation again. good luck!
    for sure not 3 but both 1 and 2 sound nice


    1- u guys can still be together even though she lives 23 miles away and she would love u for saving her from her ex-***


    u would be her prince charming


    2- everyone makes mistakes unless she has kids or has a STD, in which case just think a little more about her, she could use u to make her more outgoing


    and so what if all ur friends like her shes not theres to claim





    XOXO katelin
    each one is unique in there own way, they all carry different baggage, but what person doesnt, I am sure you have a whole history.





    The truth, honestly, I wouldnt be with any of them. You shouldnt narrow it down, there are alot of girls out there.
    The fact that each girl carries her own unique ';baggage'; kind of tells me that you're still looking for just the right one. I would not enter a relationship with any of these three. There are plenty of fish in the sea.....keep looking!
    Okay how old are you? If I was you, I'd stay single for awhile that's what I did and now I have found someone who is absolutely amazing. =] Be patient, God has a plan for you!
    Defiantly the fist girl. Don鈥檛 hurt your friend by going out with the second and don鈥檛 hurt yourself by going out with the third
    id say number 1, no competition and shed be more fun, also shes not a ***** like 3, id ask for the key back if i were you though
    I would definitly say number 1, your friends your your exes dont like her or are her best friend. That can start some MAJOR drama

    WOMAN ADVICE PLEASE... HAD THIS GIRL THAT WAS ALL ABOUT ME I WAS NOT READY AND SHE FINALLY GAVE UP. SHE SAID?

    IT WOULD HAVE NEVER WORKED OUT. I MAID SEVERAL ATTEMPTS TO CONTACT HER, BUT SHE NEVER REPLIED. I KNOW I SHOULD GIVE UP BUT IT JUST IS NOT THAT EASY. THOUGHT OF SENDING HER FLOWERS TO HER WORK SAYING SORRY FOR THE FIFTH OR SO TIME. IS THIS A GOOD IDEA OR DO I SEEM LIKE A CRAZY PERSON? SHE REALLY WAS INTO IT AND TRIED BUT I CAN UNDERSTAND WHY SHE FINALLY GAVE UP.WOMAN ADVICE PLEASE... HAD THIS GIRL THAT WAS ALL ABOUT ME I WAS NOT READY AND SHE FINALLY GAVE UP. SHE SAID?
    she obviously got tired of trying. you said it yourself.. what don't you understand??





    she's probably found someone else by now.....WOMAN ADVICE PLEASE... HAD THIS GIRL THAT WAS ALL ABOUT ME I WAS NOT READY AND SHE FINALLY GAVE UP. SHE SAID?
    I'm going through something similar. I had this guy all about me and now almost two days don't want to talk to me. His reasons are different. He can't accept my past; however, my thought is never give up. I would cool off a little bit and wait a week. I know it's hard now knowing that New Year's is around the corner and that is the one person you really want to wish all the best and hopefully kiss ... but try different strategy. If you have mutual friends..try to hang out together. Just don't mention that you are around because of her. Be cool about it. You will be surprised how people act when u ignore them. You can see it by my reactions too:) It's hard to believe but true.
    maybe for several reasons; she could have fallen in love with someone else, she could be playing hard to get or even falling into lame advice that a friend told her to do. If you love her go for it!!! Because if you don't at least try then that will be your only regret. If it doesn't work out it wasn't meant to be and then you can move on.
    Thats tough, i say if your crazy about her then you fight for her. But think about it, do you geniunely like her or do you just miss her cause thats whats comfortable or convienent? This could be classic case of I want what I cant have. But if you are gun ho, flowers are nice, especially flowers with a note explaining your actions and feelings.
    Send her flowers at home not at work.





    Just go and see her and explain why you weren't ready, say that your sorry and that you will make it up to her if she gives you the chance.
    i think that would be a good idea to send her flowers or something like that :]





    so at least it shows that u tried, and put an effort out to get her back.








    good luck!

    Relationship advice???what does this girl want from me?

    we started at begining of last school yr. Was wit each other almost every nite then after winter break she said she wsnt tlkin to anybody else but I knew she was. We still chilled alot...but she started goin home on the weekends..by spring she was goin out with him n Sh dnt tell me..I found out thru facebook lol...n I told her I dnt want to tlk to her anymore cause I dnt wat to interfer wit there relationship..but she dnt want that..she still wants to tlk to me and I let it happen..we not goin bac to the same school so idk why she wants to txt me n tlk to me????Relationship advice???what does this girl want from me?
    she probably likes being your friend! it doesnt matter if your going to the same school or not. i have this guy friend that i met when i was 10 years old. we were close all through middle and high school. now im 18, have a baby, and married. he lives in California and i in Colorado and we still talk.

    Any advice for dating a girl who has child to another man?

    help. having a bad day and just wondering if people out there experience the same. been dating girl for year and is the best. so in love with each other. but i cant shake feeling down when i think that the love of my life has a child to this other guy. they never were really together and barely talk now but he sees his child (rightfully) couple of times a week. any advice on how to distance myself from feeling bad about all this. i mean, its been a year and i still get random ';bad'; days. how can i stop feeling down over this? they ahve shared this life changing event and its tought to take, even though they hate each other and were never a couple. we have talked many times and i know it annoys her (it should, i mean, i should be ok after a year right?). any advice?Any advice for dating a girl who has child to another man?
    Many men take on the role of stepdad every year. Unfortunately, far to many fail. I was raised by my stepfather. Here's something I wrote about him for Dear Abby.


    http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_ful鈥?/a>





    As for whether you SHOULD is another matter.





    I recommend that all men, and women, who are considering being a stepparent take the time to answer a series of questions produced by a professor at the U of Missouri in Columbia. It's a stepparent work sheet. You answer the questions and review your answers using their guide. You can find it in the file section of Dads House in Yahoo Groups.





    http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Dad鈥?/a>


    Any advice for dating a girl who has child to another man?
    u can't change the situation but u can change your perspective towards it. so change how u see the situation. i don't see any reason for u to worry she has no feelings towards the kids father that makes it so much easier for u. u r probably feeling jealous of the kid or the fact that another man gave her a baby. not much advice we can give u on how to feel but just try to look at it in a different light.
    she might just like have ing sex with men, i would make sure that you wear your comdom, so you don't become the next hated guy who knocked her up
    Too many women do this: get pregnant by the sexy dude who's great on the dance floor and has a 'bad' reputation, then 'grow up', 'settle down' i.e. stop being promiscuous, and seek a good, reliable man as husband material. They expect him to take on the job of raising another man's child without any consideration that men don't like this and typically want children of their own.





    In nature there are many species the male of which would summarily kill the infant/s and impregnant the female himself so your feelings of unease, while primitive, are as natural as jealousy, lust, or any other emotional response.





    Personally, I wouldn't raise another man's child on principle. The father has a parental duty - and if the mother chose an unreliable man that's her problem. She made the bed - she can lie in it.





    Another reason I'd never so much as date a single mother is that you're guaranteed to come second in her life behind the kid. That'd be cool if it was *your* kid but you'll never be comfortable when it isn't.





    Furthermore, she'll never be *your* woman - you'll have to share her with 'him' for the rest of your life. He'll always have rights to visit his child; she - and thus YOU - will always have to accomodate 'him' every month. His shadow will be there as a constant reminder that 'your' woman was with him before you, and bore his child, and that HIS flesh and blood is being fed, and clothed, and protected, and raised by you - you're doing the hard work and his genes will live on.





    Not for me. Is it for you?