NEED ADVICE NOW, Boy or girl doesn't matter I could really use some help?

My boyfriend and I started going out during our freshman year. We are still together it's been 11 months and two weeks. But I'm having boyfriend troubles. I have no idea whats going on in his head. Like I'm not even sure if he's always telling me the truth. He told me he had a crush on this girl in 8th grade. He told me that he kinda liked her when we first started going out. Now he's telling me that he doesn't like her anymore. It's hard to believe because every time she passes by he's always turning to look and when i mention her name he acts like he gets all excited. One of my questions is am I being paranoid about this or does he have feelings for her still?








Ok i have another question. A long time ago i went camping with one of my friends. She brought another friend too. But her other friend was mean the first time we met. She refused to hang out with my friend and I. Later my friend wasn't her friend anymore because she acted this way and turned out to be a jerk. Now she's a freshman at my school. The problem is that her and my boyfriend are friends kinda. They have eachother's numbers. Well I was mad at him and told him to not even talk to her at all. Because she was telling him that i used to be mean to her. Later i changed my mind about him talking with her because I didn't want to control his life. It still bugs me that they talk. Today she told him to break- up with me. So my question is did i do the right thing? And what should I do about the girl? I just don't understand why she's acting like this. I haven't even talked to her at all and just ignored herNEED ADVICE NOW, Boy or girl doesn't matter I could really use some help?
First question: You aren't paranoid your boyfriend still likes her....





Second question: You could call her and demand what her problem was and you are right you shouldn't control his life.





P.S The guy is causing problems, dump him girl! You could do better, high school is about having fun and being with friends not drama and you being stressed about your boyfriendNEED ADVICE NOW, Boy or girl doesn't matter I could really use some help?
you should continue to be a controlling *****





wait you are doing your best to make him run away right?
If he really loves you he won't listen to her.
**** them both up!


FTP
well for your first question i honestly i think he still likes her... the most important thing in a relaition ship is trust and being able to not have to think that he like another girl or anything like that. even though you've been with him for so long he might not be the right guy if he acts like he strill likes this other girl but try talkiing to him about the way you feel and go from there do whateva you think is right.





for the second question. this girl isnt worht is if she's being such a ***** but if you really love your boyfriend maybe you should try talking to this girl and asking her what her problme is you never know you too could become great friends. and her tell ur bf to break up with you is a dick move
if he really love u he wouldn't listen to her. and second i think wut u did was right, but u did it in a paranoid way that mite drive him away, and if u think that he's slipping from ur grasp, i suggest u dump him before he dumps u, it's not about shame or who was n't good eough for whom, but u cant stay in a relationship wen he still has feelings for some other gurl and he just leaves u at the corner.


and third, I think u should totally tell off that ';friend'; of yours, but try to save ur relationship and prove her wrong, wen u feel that the relationship wont last u should try to get into a mutual decision that u two arent good for each other, other wise if u dump him, u'll look like he queen ***** who dumped ur poor heart broken boyfriend.... good luck :)


i hope this helps
When it comes to bfs i always trust my first instinct. it sounds like he likes her. sorry. dont get down about it.. you will find someone to better apreciate you:)





i think your bf should put you infront of this grl. i'd tell him to make up his mind.. does he want you or her as a ';friend'; if he really loves/likes/cares for you he will chose you. this is not controlling him. controlling him is telling him not to talk to someone because you dont like them. this girl is being negative towards you with your bf. wouldnt you get mad at your mom if she was friends with a lady who couldnt stand you %26amp; wanted to see you suffer? of course. same thing here. he either needs to get away from her or you need to leave him. you dont need to understand why she is acting that way. she is probably jealous %26amp; wants him.she doesnt matter %26amp; neither do her reasons. what matters is whether or not your bf defends you.





good luck %26amp; God bless.:) (if you believe)
For your first question,Sorry,But it sure does sound like he still has feelings for her! If my boyfriend got excited once i said a girls name,or looked back at her,while me and him walked past her..I'd slap the $h!t outta him. It sounds like he does like her. Actually,to ME it's kinda obvious,sit down and talk to him about it. He might lie to you,or you might get into a huge fight,and it all might end with you breaking up,and someone getting the heartbreak. Be careful,and keep looking for more signs of ';feelings';.








And for your second question....


MURK THE HELL OUT OF THAT GIRL! Again,sit down and talk to your boyfriend,and tell him your true feelings. And take a while to really vent your feelings. And the next time you see her,the NEXT time you see her..And you're with your boyfriend,and she makes a little smart remark,hit her in the face. Or if she looks at you,and makes a face. Step up to her and yell:';*****! What the hell are you looking at?'; Lol...The cussing might not be appropriate for you,but i think cussing is just another regular word. You did the right thing,she has NO say in ya'll's relationship. She can't tell him to break up with you. Tell her to shut her lips....And again,if a girl randomly starts to get pissy with you,and starts hating you,SHE'S JEALOUS! Maybe because she has a huge crush on your boyfriend,and she wishes she was in your place.