So this is the deal. I have been on a couple of dates with this amazing girl. We went on our first date on sunday and had the best talk I have ever had on a first date. We had a couple of drinks then when I took her to her car we pop ed kissed. She told me she had a great time and I did as well, Our second date we met on South beach for sushi and a movie. Like before we had a great talk she was very honest about her current situation. She has been single for 3 months and still lives at her ex's but hes been out of town for the last 3 months and hes not coming back for another 2. She told me that she hasn't loved him since june. I am ok with that because she was honest about it. We held hand and kissed walking into the movie and cuddled during the movie. I told her that night that i was into her and that I cut ties with anyone i was talking to. which i did.
Then last night I invited her to this event that my friend was having in an upscale lounge. She came and picked me up and drove to her new condo where she is moving into next month. She was as affectionate as before and seemed distant. Once we got to the lounge she opened up a little. Once my friends showed up ( they were all girls) she was all over me gave me kisses and showed affection. when i walked her to the bathroom she told me that she likes me alot but she feels like her emotions are to soon for me. she said that its weird that she still lives at her ex's and she wants to close that chapter in her life. Well I acted like I was ok with that. Once we got back in most of my friends were there she talked to them they all liked her. She was very affectionate the whole night. Once she had to leave i walked her to her car and we kissed and damn was it a great kiss.
So this morning I txt her to remind her of a dress she had to lend to a friend and she said that I was to perfect with a smiley face. then she called me and told me that she loves spending time with me. We have planned to go to the car show onSaturdayy and on sunday to a heat open practice.
So my concern is that I do like her alot and never have felt anything for a girl this quick and I know she feels tha same way. But her saying that she has to close a chapter before getting to be with me kinda bothers me, and that she has only been single for 3 months. What do you girls think I should do or should i be worried that this is just a fling for her or that she really likes me?Need advice I like this girl and she is sending me mixed messages?
It sounds like she likes you but she's being cautious because she wants to make sure it's real and not a fling. Just take your time with her and be open and honest with how you feel. Right now she needs to focus on getting out of her ex's place and getting on her own two feet. So you should be supportive and relaxed with her. Let her move you guys forward if she wants to but otherwise keep it calm. Listen to her and show her that you're a good guy. She'll let you know when she's ready.Need advice I like this girl and she is sending me mixed messages?
She is probably a bit confused - so be careful and cautious but constant ............and take it slow. If she is worth it and the one for you - then you have all the time in the world - no rush...
It seems like she likes you. Just take things slow and give her the space to close whatever chapter she needs to.
She likes you but it scares her because she just ended a relationship. Just keep taking things slow.
why r u blogging our date on line crowed its over dnt talk to me ever fool punk dumdy gosh u really know how to hurt my feeelings dnt u max i cnt do this anymore ur not worth my time or anything
hey dude nice meeting ya... she likes u 100%... she jus wanna close all her ex relationships... and be all urs... giv the gal some tym dude... she really likes u....all the best..
According to your narrative, she is not sending ';mixed messages'; in the least.
This demonstrates one of the following (only you know which one:)
%26gt; You aren't mentally healthy.
%26gt; You lack the brains God gave a tomato.
%26gt; You aren't being honest and are soliciting ';advice'; on false pretenses to get the feedback you want.
There really is no 4th possibility. Objectively, one of those IS true.
Either way, she can do better. Let her go.
I agree with the other answer. She likes you, and wants to be with you, but she's not ready for another relationship now. Just take it slow and respect her feelings. She'll open up more when she's ready.
Man its good thing thats she trying to close that chapter in her life,so she can be with you..If she still say shelives with boyfirend shes all in to you don't you think she tryin get her past out of the way so she be with you..
I think you should also take things slow, seems your both really into each other and she does need to close that chapter of her life before starting a new with you. Take your time and have fun its to early to be so serious.
I think that while she is likely over her ex, she doesn't feel emotionally prepared for another relationship so soon, and didn't expect to like you as much as she did or so quickly. I don't think it's a bad thing at all.
I have been single for just four months now, and I had been out of love with my ex before that. I didn't live with him, but we had planned to get married, so cell and car were all combined. I can understand her wanting to close that chapter of her life because even when the emotional and physical ties to someone are severed, the material ones can serve as a complication.
Despite those material ties, I met someone last month--much like the girl you are seeing now--and have never liked someone so much so quickly. He is simply amazing, and despite all the reasoning I gave to your girl's behavior, I knew I couldn't pass up a chance to be with him. I'm glad I didn't, but am looking forward to the day when all ties are severed with my ex, so that I can enjoy life and my new boyfriend without an ex overshadowing it.
Just take things slow, that's what my boyfriend and I are doing, and we're both very happy =)
Well, obviously I'm not a girl, but as a fledging couples' conselor, I have a couple of ideas.
First of all, you need to take a step back and look at this from her perspective. It's obvious that this girl either: A) Likes to be with you a lot, or B) Likes to be with SOMEONE a lot. Take an honest look at her. It was her behavior in front of others that made me think of B. Is she geniunely affectionate with you, or does it feel more like a show? Watch her actions closely, but don't jump to conclusions.
If she really likes you and likes being with you, then this may be a case of her not feeling good enough for you. You're probably a great guy, (unlike her ex) so she feels that somehow she doesn't deserve you (especially since she'll still living with the other guy). Let her know how beautiful she is, and tell her you lucky you feel just to be with her. Throw in a dozen flowers of her favorite color (find out what her favorite color is first), and she will feel like a million bucks!
However, if she just likes being with SOMEONE, then you've got a problem. Even thought she isn't in love with her boyfriend, she may still have some pretty strong feelings for him, and (i know this is gonna hurt) may be using you to get over him...or worse, use you to get BACK at him! She'll be really affectionate at first, but as she begins to get over the old boyfriend, she may start looking elsewhere. Or, if she's just using you as a weapon against him, then she may start pitting the two of you against each other, and you don't need an enemy just because of a girl!
As i said, this may not be the case (and i really hope it isn't). But that's for you to decide. Go on a few more dates, enjoy her company, and all the while be listening to that little voice in your head that keeps you sensible. It'll tell you what is true and what is false.
Well lucky you.. your the rebound guy (but not in a bad way) it's just you've come along at a time in her life where she is finally moving on from her ex. She obviously likes you and wants to get to know you but I think what she meant by she needs to close a chapter before getting to know you was that she needs a little bit more time to move on completely and get things straight before she jumps right back into another serious relationship. She just wants to take things slow, date, and have fun for now (including the flirty pda). Think of yourself as her medicine. Even though she has obviously moved on your going to be her extra step to get over this completely. Let her know that your not going to rush her and that you'll give her all the time she needs to close the chapter. I think she definitely needs to get out of her ex's house and that will help her because she won't be around his things and be constantly reminded of him 24/7. I think she really likes you but she might have her guard up right now.
oh this is hard , well first of all she may not love her ex but he must have been a big part of her life as they did live together .i think you should stick around you could just be rebound , try being a friend for now help her move into a new place or what ever .she cant really know what she wants till she has spent time on her on 3 months isn't quite long enough i don't think . sorry if its not what you want to hear .
2 years ago i left my partner after being to gether 4 year i met some1 else and genuinely fell for him we spent 6 months together it was great but something wasn't there something was missing i end up surprising my self , i got back with my ex after bumping into him in the street 1 day and a rush of feeling took over . we are now together with our beautiful daughter i still cant get over how i hurt that other guy .
so my advise to you would be to step back a little and see if she can be on her own first .if she is on her own two feet she will no what she wants because just now her feelings for you are probably clouding her vision
sorry if its not what you wanted to hear
good luck
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