Being a step parent comes with the challenge of ';replacing'; (in the mind of children) the other biological parent. However, it is your house, and you and your wife need to unit in the front of parenting as well as establishing boundaries/rules. With that in mind, first step is to work with your spouse on parenting the children, make sure you two are on the same page and that you are supporting each other in front of the children. This will help diffuse some of the issues that will arise, especially with the 17 year old.
Next, spend time getting to know each child asking about their school day, homework, friends. Work on letting the kids know that you respect their biological father but that you have an interest in being in their lives too and will continue to be a consistent and reliable person for them.
Most of all, ask questions, allow them to talk, and give it all time. Nothing happens in a day, as I am sure you know.Need advice on how to be stepfather to a 17 year old boy %26amp; a 7 year old girl?
The most important thing to remember is to let the mother do the disciplining. This has been shown time and time again in research, and as a child with a step-father, I was aware of this before I could read! Just be friends with them and provide support, understanding, and be open. They will eventually learn to appreciate this and will not resent you for trying to be 'dad' by being strict or disciplining.Need advice on how to be stepfather to a 17 year old boy %26amp; a 7 year old girl?
Find something you have in common with the 17 year old, and try to spend time with him, go places where you two can talk and bond. myself and my father go to flea markets and baseball games (try sundays when your not likely take time away from is friends) all the time, those 3ish hours are great we talk and laugh alot about everything. The 7 year old may be easier try just playing with her dolls dress up act as goofy as possible, also help with homework and things like that and make that fun shell love you
Good Luck
The 17 year old is nearly grown, so be supportive and treat his mom and sister right. That will be most important to him. With the 7 year old, listen to her, get to know her, be a great example. But Mom should be doing any disciplining until you have a strong and healthy relationship with her as her step-dad.
Hm, the 17 year old will be trickier than the 7 year old. First, try to connect with both of them,but don't smother. Give them space when they need it, but set up opportunities for you to get to know them 101.
Make sure the younger one realizes you're role as an authority, but focus more on getting to know the older child. Hope this helps.
The 17 year old is probably NEVER going to accept you as a father so I wouldn't get too involved there.
The 7 year old will probably have a lot of trust issues so just listen to her, support her but be firm. The more you have boundaries the more they will respect you.
Good luck! That's an awful place for you to be!!! I'm glad I'm not in your shoes.
be there for them let them know you are not trying to take their father's place love them and my boyfriend would always say my kid her kids when somebody asked him if they were his and he would treat his kid better and i would treat her like i do mine we only see each other when my kids are not home but i keep his little girl on weekends after 3 years i feel she is mine she loves me my kids hates him her mom passed way in 2002 and my kids dad is in prison since 2005 so it is hard on the kids but don't let them treat you bad either because the way he treated my kids we went from living together to him staying weekends and non school days to a couple hours a week together so good luck
Good luck, especially with the 17 year old. Be sure you don't try to act too much like his father, but rather a parental figure / friend. He may be jealous that you're with his mom. Be patient with him... As for the 7 year old, I think she'll get adjusted much easier. Children at that age are easier to win over...
b storng tuff n very loving
Monday, August 23, 2010
I need advice on asking a girl out?
ok me and this girl went out for a little while but then she broke up with me the next school year and then went out with this guy for like 2 weeks until he broke up with her for some1 else but anyways i really like her but everytime i want to ask her out i get nervous.....im not real good at this if you cant tell.....but anyway i need advice and plz real answers and no put downs..o we have been friends since elementary schoolI need advice on asking a girl out?
you have to tell her sometime and asking a girl out will help make it easier for you to ask other girls out and it gets easier
you could ask a friend to ask her out for you or you can write her a note but you should probably ask her yourselfI need advice on asking a girl out?
Just tell her.
you have to tell her sometime and asking a girl out will help make it easier for you to ask other girls out and it gets easier
you could ask a friend to ask her out for you or you can write her a note but you should probably ask her yourselfI need advice on asking a girl out?
Just tell her.
Need some advice about dating a girl who has been in an abusive relationship?
How could the guy prove or show her that he will not beat her or be abusive towards her like her ex. I know it's hard for a girl like that to trust, but say that we both have feelings for each other, but it seems impossible at the moment, because she thinks it'll happen again. We have both had some long talks about the situation, and she keeps avoiding it and saying she doesn't know if she could trust another guy for a long time. The thing is we have both known each other for 3 years and she has seen me get angry and lose my cool, but i don't want her to think i would be like that with her, cos i wouldn't. I have never, and wouldn't ever hit a girl. So how do i go about things?Need some advice about dating a girl who has been in an abusive relationship?
i just got out of one like 3 months ago and i haven't dated since opportunities have come by for me but ive never given it a chance..talk to her and tell her to give this a try and see where it goes tell her u understand that's its not easy but promise her ur different and that u will treat her with up-most respect..just tell her to give it a try and tell her to give u a chance to prove yourself that u are a much better man and has the decency not a hit a woman..but remember u must be serious about her cause after what shes been through shes not ready for a short 2 month fling make sure that you are going to give it ur all and try not to get mad around her for a little bit so she can see that u are trustworthy..i hope i helped you and best of luck...Need some advice about dating a girl who has been in an abusive relationship?
I was in an abusive relationship. Really bad too. It took me a long time to get back into a relationship. I think what helped me was the guy, who I liked, and liked me a lot (such as your situation) took his time. He didn't pressure me to date, and just subtly started doing little things to make sure I knew he would never be awful to me like my last boyfriend. Be a man. Give her time. Be a gentlemen...
So, she has seen you ';lose your cool...'; and you want her to trust you...
She needs to run from you as fast as she can.
beat her till she gets the message
i just got out of one like 3 months ago and i haven't dated since opportunities have come by for me but ive never given it a chance..talk to her and tell her to give this a try and see where it goes tell her u understand that's its not easy but promise her ur different and that u will treat her with up-most respect..just tell her to give it a try and tell her to give u a chance to prove yourself that u are a much better man and has the decency not a hit a woman..but remember u must be serious about her cause after what shes been through shes not ready for a short 2 month fling make sure that you are going to give it ur all and try not to get mad around her for a little bit so she can see that u are trustworthy..i hope i helped you and best of luck...Need some advice about dating a girl who has been in an abusive relationship?
I was in an abusive relationship. Really bad too. It took me a long time to get back into a relationship. I think what helped me was the guy, who I liked, and liked me a lot (such as your situation) took his time. He didn't pressure me to date, and just subtly started doing little things to make sure I knew he would never be awful to me like my last boyfriend. Be a man. Give her time. Be a gentlemen...
So, she has seen you ';lose your cool...'; and you want her to trust you...
She needs to run from you as fast as she can.
beat her till she gets the message
Need Relationship Advice? I dated this girl for 3 yrs and it was very secret!?
We had our ups and downs and we broke it off last year. She kept coming back and we tried so save the friendship. But I couldn't trust her she lied to me when we were together about who she was with and things like that. I been honest with her and been there for her. This yr has been terrible for me with job loss, car accident and sickness she banish and left me to deal with it myself. I miss her and still love her but I don't know what to do. I'm planning to move to UTah soon and I want to find out if she has moved on and tell her how I feel but she wont return my phone calls. I know I shouldn't bother with someone like her she has been unfaithful and not a good friend. But I am in love and need your help please give me advice on this matter this is my first love and i feel like Im breaking inside!!Need Relationship Advice? I dated this girl for 3 yrs and it was very secret!?
Aw, first love often sucks. Sorry to hear about your situation.
Do not trust her, do not be friends. Cut ties completely. Not what you want, but what you need to heal %26amp; find your way.Need Relationship Advice? I dated this girl for 3 yrs and it was very secret!?
Honestly there is only one way to get over your first love. You need to hook up with someone else. You need to avoid this person at all costs. You should avoid even thinking about her, because this will not allow you to move forward with your life. Try looking at this relationship in 3rd person, wouldn't you consider the person in your shoes pathetic?
id say if you don't trust her dontt bother it is not worth it and is NOT healthy . Also if she hasn't returned your phone calls don't bother. Stop calling her u r giving her the satisfactionn that u still care so she will hurt u more if you keep giving her the satisfactionn
You had a tough year and she didn't even help or stand by you. DUMP HER!! she sounds like a ***** and you deserve better! GO UTAH!!! I hear there are some hot mormon babes out there!! :)
Aw, first love often sucks. Sorry to hear about your situation.
Do not trust her, do not be friends. Cut ties completely. Not what you want, but what you need to heal %26amp; find your way.Need Relationship Advice? I dated this girl for 3 yrs and it was very secret!?
Honestly there is only one way to get over your first love. You need to hook up with someone else. You need to avoid this person at all costs. You should avoid even thinking about her, because this will not allow you to move forward with your life. Try looking at this relationship in 3rd person, wouldn't you consider the person in your shoes pathetic?
id say if you don't trust her dontt bother it is not worth it and is NOT healthy . Also if she hasn't returned your phone calls don't bother. Stop calling her u r giving her the satisfactionn that u still care so she will hurt u more if you keep giving her the satisfactionn
You had a tough year and she didn't even help or stand by you. DUMP HER!! she sounds like a ***** and you deserve better! GO UTAH!!! I hear there are some hot mormon babes out there!! :)
Just want some advice on how to get my toddler girl to use the potty...thanks?
I trained twin girls. First make sure she is ready. We tried everything. The only thing that worked was a big t-shirt and nothing else. Try taking her at least once an hour to try. We also put Cheerios, just a couple and got them to potty on them. They thought this was funny. Whatever works HUH?Just want some advice on how to get my toddler girl to use the potty...thanks?
if she is showing the signs of being ready then i recommend the three day seventy five dollar method%26gt; let her run around naked for three days%26gt; took my daughter about five days but we have had very few accidents since then%26gt; we tried the sticker method but still had accidents every day after three months%26gt; also poo pooing in the potty will take the most amount of time%26gt; good luck
oh the seventy five dollars is for getting the carpets cleaned when your done%26gt; best of luck%26lt; i';m working on how to train my son now%26gt;Just want some advice on how to get my toddler girl to use the potty...thanks?
Let her spend some time with other little girls who are already potty trained. They will teach her how, and she will be more likely to try it with someone her own age to show her how. Peer pressure works wonders.
you can try rewarding her with m%26amp;m's or skittles or something small like that that she likes a lot. tell her everytime she uses the potty you will give her like 2 or 3 of them. a pack will last you a little bit.
I tried everything. From stickers to the pee doll. The only thing that worked was putting panties on her. The first 3 days she did pee on herself. But she hated being wet so then she started going to the potty.
Yes, as a lady above says, try a reward system of colourful stickers or badges and see how many she canncollect each day.
Or put the potty in the bathroom and see if she can go in there to do her business 'just like mummy', and reward her afterwards again.
She will soon realise that if she pleases you by using the potty she will obtain a prize ... it works!
Try taking the dollies and teddies to use the potty as well... more good examples to follow.
Well Take her to the potty and tell her she has to pee there from now on and also if you put undies on her instead of a diapar and she pees she wont like being wet like that and that will encourage her to use the potty. If you praise her when she does pee in the tolite and you act happy about it and excited that will make her happy too. But if she pees herself tell her thats yucky and shes suppose to use the potty. I hope my answer helps a little. good luck with your littleone!
I was reading about the sticker chart. When she ';goes'; on the potty she gets a sticker, and after collecting enough stickers, she gets a present. You can begin by a present for every 2 stickers, and then for every 3, then 4, etc... Also, when she is mostly trained, you can use the sticker idea for every day with no accidents, and after a week, if she has enough stickers... Also, I read maybe you could leave her alone for a couple minutes, give her privacy? I don't know, I have to potty train a boy soon...
im potty training my two old right now to shes doing good.
i just sat her on there and when she goes we clap. i also
bought some pull-ups and pantys for her and she likes being called a big girl. it didnt take her long, just everytime she says potty take her or you could have a accident.
good luck
Check out the following site. It guides you on whether your child is reading to be potty trained as well as providing various ways to encourage your child to use the potty.
Wait until she is ready to star potty training her, then put her on the toilet. some children don't transition well from potty seat to toilet and they don't have potty seats in preschools, or elementary schools...they have toilets.
We got our daughter to use the potty by letting her sit there with her books. After a while she started peeing in the potty. It takes them a while to get comfortable using the pot. Once they do, they really don't like wetting/etc themselves.
if she is showing the signs of being ready then i recommend the three day seventy five dollar method%26gt; let her run around naked for three days%26gt; took my daughter about five days but we have had very few accidents since then%26gt; we tried the sticker method but still had accidents every day after three months%26gt; also poo pooing in the potty will take the most amount of time%26gt; good luck
oh the seventy five dollars is for getting the carpets cleaned when your done%26gt; best of luck%26lt; i';m working on how to train my son now%26gt;Just want some advice on how to get my toddler girl to use the potty...thanks?
Let her spend some time with other little girls who are already potty trained. They will teach her how, and she will be more likely to try it with someone her own age to show her how. Peer pressure works wonders.
you can try rewarding her with m%26amp;m's or skittles or something small like that that she likes a lot. tell her everytime she uses the potty you will give her like 2 or 3 of them. a pack will last you a little bit.
I tried everything. From stickers to the pee doll. The only thing that worked was putting panties on her. The first 3 days she did pee on herself. But she hated being wet so then she started going to the potty.
Yes, as a lady above says, try a reward system of colourful stickers or badges and see how many she canncollect each day.
Or put the potty in the bathroom and see if she can go in there to do her business 'just like mummy', and reward her afterwards again.
She will soon realise that if she pleases you by using the potty she will obtain a prize ... it works!
Try taking the dollies and teddies to use the potty as well... more good examples to follow.
Well Take her to the potty and tell her she has to pee there from now on and also if you put undies on her instead of a diapar and she pees she wont like being wet like that and that will encourage her to use the potty. If you praise her when she does pee in the tolite and you act happy about it and excited that will make her happy too. But if she pees herself tell her thats yucky and shes suppose to use the potty. I hope my answer helps a little. good luck with your littleone!
I was reading about the sticker chart. When she ';goes'; on the potty she gets a sticker, and after collecting enough stickers, she gets a present. You can begin by a present for every 2 stickers, and then for every 3, then 4, etc... Also, when she is mostly trained, you can use the sticker idea for every day with no accidents, and after a week, if she has enough stickers... Also, I read maybe you could leave her alone for a couple minutes, give her privacy? I don't know, I have to potty train a boy soon...
im potty training my two old right now to shes doing good.
i just sat her on there and when she goes we clap. i also
bought some pull-ups and pantys for her and she likes being called a big girl. it didnt take her long, just everytime she says potty take her or you could have a accident.
good luck
Check out the following site. It guides you on whether your child is reading to be potty trained as well as providing various ways to encourage your child to use the potty.
Wait until she is ready to star potty training her, then put her on the toilet. some children don't transition well from potty seat to toilet and they don't have potty seats in preschools, or elementary schools...they have toilets.
We got our daughter to use the potty by letting her sit there with her books. After a while she started peeing in the potty. It takes them a while to get comfortable using the pot. Once they do, they really don't like wetting/etc themselves.
Female Dating Advice Please: Calling a girl?
I went out with a girl a couple of times last summer but because of some missed communication we stopped seeing each other. I then saw her over Christmas randomly and called her a few days later to ask her out but she was seeing someone. I would like to see if she is still seeing someone. Would it be reasonable to call, text, facebook her, or is it a bad idea altogether. I kinda feel as though she would have called me if she had become single or was at all interested, but you never know. Part of my concern as well is that the last time I called her she was seeing someone, so I dont want it to seem as if I dont respect that, but there is no other way of finding out if she is seeing someone. What should I do? Serious Advice only please.Female Dating Advice Please: Calling a girl?
Send her a message on facebook...kind of a ';long time no see, just checkin in with you to see how you're doing'; type of message. If she responds, then she at least still wants to be friends. Then you can go from there. If she doesn't, leave it alone.beauty tips
Send her a message on facebook...kind of a ';long time no see, just checkin in with you to see how you're doing'; type of message. If she responds, then she at least still wants to be friends. Then you can go from there. If she doesn't, leave it alone.
Need some advice on asking this girl?
To put it bluntly, homecoming for our school is coming up and most guys and girls are already paired up. Now there's this girl I like who I am pretty sure has not asked anyone yet. Thing is, I am one of those people that never talks in class. She never usually talks to me but does turn around to look at me in the classes we share (thinking I don't notice her).
Being the shy type, I probably won't dare approach her until Saturn unveils its doom ray.
Thing is, the doom ray will probably not be unveiled for a couple years (Lets hope not).
So what should I do?Need some advice on asking this girl?
k man best advice right here. ask here asap before someone else does trust me u dont wanna find out she got asked becuase u waited to long and always be like wut if, no just ask her trust me ive been there a guy who i didnt think was as kool as me asked this one girl i was gonna ask to grad becasue i waited to long (im shy). when i asked her she was like ya i definately would have gone with u too. Trust me ask and u can do no wrong if u wait then thats your first mistake. im not proof reading all this so srry try to make sence of it. ASK HER
Being the shy type, I probably won't dare approach her until Saturn unveils its doom ray.
Thing is, the doom ray will probably not be unveiled for a couple years (Lets hope not).
So what should I do?Need some advice on asking this girl?
k man best advice right here. ask here asap before someone else does trust me u dont wanna find out she got asked becuase u waited to long and always be like wut if, no just ask her trust me ive been there a guy who i didnt think was as kool as me asked this one girl i was gonna ask to grad becasue i waited to long (im shy). when i asked her she was like ya i definately would have gone with u too. Trust me ask and u can do no wrong if u wait then thats your first mistake. im not proof reading all this so srry try to make sence of it. ASK HER
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